A Famous Quote, "motherhood Is The Lonliest Place A Woman Can Ever Face."
I heard that quote once and it never really sunk in until I had my own child. He's 2 and a half now. As far as toddlers go I guess he's pretty good. He's not the problem. He's 2. He's suppose to be needy, hyper, bad, and good all in the same five minute period. I work full time and have a husband. I have a lot of friends. It's funny though, when you are pregnant, people come out of the woodwork to support you. They throw you showers, take you shopping and rally around you. Once the baby comes, and the newness of the new life wears off, your friends start to dissapear. Going out becomes a thing of the past. You start to hear phrases such as, "this is an adult party so..." People at work talk about movies and say, "Have you seen it yet? You should go and see it." They have no understanding, sympathy, or care that you would kill to see that movie, but you either A) can't get a babysitter or B) can't afford to do the movie, the popcorn, and the babysitter. My family lives in another state so holiday's are lonely and the concept of going out on New Years Eve becomes such an arduous task that it isnt even worth it. People in this country are so sanctimonious and refuse to let women talk about the fact that sometimes they just can't go on anymore. No one ever talks about the lonliness that mothers actually go through. It's considered a sin.
I believe whole heartedly that women should love themselves first and their families second. If you can't take care and love yourself, then taking care of your family becomes difficult and possibly impossible. Sometimes I just want to walk away. Sometimes I wonder what was I thinking to have a baby. Sometimes I think that I'm the only woman with these feelings. Motherhood isn't romantic. It's not a movie or Hallmark commercial. It's scary and lonely. It doesn't have to be, though. If people had just a shred of understanding and empathy, then mothers wouldn't feel like this. Instead of talking about the movie, why doesn't someone turn to the mother and say, "Hey, I saw this great movie. Can I watch your child for a few hours so you can enjoy it, too?" We need help. We aren't superwomen with a cape. We work full time regardless if it's in the workforce or the home. We need to open the dialogue and start talking about the beauty and the lonliness of motherhood. We need to start understanding and helping out. Sometimes I sit at home and cry and hope for someone, anyone to show up at my door and say, "Go take a break. I've got him now."