I Think Marriage Gets Harder Not Easier

I thought it was supposed to get easier. I believed that over time things would just kind of come together but its really not that way. I've been married for ten years now and my wife and I fight more than ever. Its like we see the world through totally different glasses. We have nothing in common anymore, we have both changed. I didn't think the changes were bad but when I really stop and look at it, I feel like even the changes are opposite, instead of growing closer to one another we continue to spread out. It doesn't change the fact that I love her very much but if I am being honest, I couldn't tell you if she loves me. She says she does but words really don't mean much when you can't feel it. I would never get a divorce, I don't ever want to. I know it could be great but right now its not... I feel like I have tried to bend so much...but I guess everyone thinks they are bending.... Anything she has ever wanted or needed I try to provide. I really strive to be a good husband and a good father ( we have two beautiful boys). I've worked jobs I despise so that she could be home with them because I feel thats important. I really want her to be happy but I really want to be happy too... I am tired of always being the one to compromise... I just wanted to vent...thanks for the opportunity!

Why does it have to be so complicated?
cantunderstandhow cantunderstandhow
31-35, M
Aug 3, 2010