I Have Lots of Acquaintances But No Real Friends

I find it really easy to chat to people when I first meet them but I've always found it hard to make friends.  I work hard and don't have much time for a social life.  But I think that the main problem is that I think that people don't like me enough to want to be my friend.  So I will talk to them but never like to take things a stage further. I wonder how other people do it?  Over the years I have tended to socialize with people that I work with but, when I change jobs, I never manage to keep in touch.  The people that I know already seem to have well established social groups and I don't feel confident enough to join them.  I'm sure that, in reality, there must be lots of lonely people out there in the world but I just don't know how to meet them.  I have tried going to evening classes and things like that but have never really met anybody that I think I can get on with.  I have been married for over twenty years and have a good relationship with my husband who is very supportive but I worry about how I would cope if anything happened to him because I don't think that I have anybody that I could turn to in a crisis other than him.  I have never had a birthday party as an adult because I don't think that anybody would come.  This sounds pathetic but it's true.  I think that most people view me as outgoing and confident but I'm not really.  I know that I need to do something about this but don't know where to start.

LizzieBeth LizzieBeth
Feb 17, 2009