Alone & Overwhelmed

I don't think anything I say will make a difference but I bet soon you will be able to have someone to talk to. You might feel better if you took your kids to the park zoo etc.

You are in a very *busy* phase of your life right now, and possibly craving energy. ( hence the soda) In another 10 years the children will have changed their *demands* and menopause will slow your metabolism. Perhaps consider a multivitamin each day instead of the soda, and if you enjoy a *bubbly* drink, maybe substitute mineral sparkling water. It may help with the weight. Oh, and btw, make a list of things your husband cant do and present it to him. Menstration, Childbirth,Breastfeeding, Multitasking....you get the idea

I'm new to posting, but my heart goes out to you. I have become a recluse because of my disability. My friends have deserted me, so I am very alone too. If you ever need someone to talk to, drop me a line. I cannot exercise much because of health problems. I need to lose about 100 lbs. still. I have lost 35 lbs. so far since 8/1/11. I'm doing Dr. Atkins low carb diet. You can learn about it more at www.atkins.com. Two other good sites are www.lowcarbluxury.com, and carbsmart.com. It can be hard without sugar, flour, and starch, (they put sugar in almost everything) but you can have non-starchy veggies, eggs, meat, and cheese. The last two websites I listed even have low-carb goodies like low-carb pasta. I've lost my 35 lbs. without much exercise at all. Don't feel bad about your hubby's loss. It is a proven fact that men lose weight faster and easier than women. Not at all fair, but what can you do. I'm not a mother, and I don't know how old your children are, but they need to learn to pick up after themselves and help mom out with some things. Chores never killed any kid that I know of. You take care, and warm hugs to you.

I feel better knowing that as alone as I feel that there are others in similar situations. My husband doesn't work nights right now but he is gone all day, leaves me with a young child during the day while the other one is in school. I cook, clean and care for the kids. By the time he gets home and I am able to get a break I am too exhausted to do anything! I have low self esteem and have gained more weight now after the birth of my second child than I gained when I was pregnant! We recently moved and so I don't know anyone other than my husband and children. I am having a tough time getting out and meeting people.

I am right there with you!!! My husband works nights, I have 5 kids and have no one to talk to other than here. I feel alone, unloved and unappreciated. It is hard to live life without that love. message me anytime you want to talk. :)

Thanks for sharing this interesting story, I am glad I dropped by.

Have you tried writing a list of things you like about yourself and things you are good at? Then re-read this list everyday. It should increase your self-esteem. It works for me.

sounds like you & your kids are looking for heart connection. try finding it by taking a walk w/your kids in nature...exercise, talking, connecting w/your kids...feel good recipe, try it you may like it! I can also offer up some foody advice...but one has to be open.

you keep talking we will listen its good to share and ease the burden . don't give up make sure hubby is understanding and the kids can help to. make a mess clear it up you are only human

Hi,

I no how you feel.

I feel the same way.

I don't have husband and kids.

But I did a dum thing and locked my self in a apartment coplex and I can see people and walk across the street to the store.

But never got out and walked.

I locked my self i n the apartment and crawled in bed from all my promblems.



Now i am going to join a swimming club and exiceident with people and they say it works you lose weight and there is people like yoiu .

And my freinds say they are loseing weight.

And walk and I am going to try.

I have nothing to lose.



But good lucky to you.

If you need to talk come to me and talk.



Lashanda

Well having kids could have thrown off your chemical balance. And don't worry, men lose weight faster than women do. Your body is taking in too much sugar. (ex, soda, white bread, etc...) lean meat is good.



Here is a site on healthy foods:

http://www.whfoods.com/foodstoc.php



And one for daily recipes:

http://www.whfoods.com/index.html



Or you can also try breaking down your meals. Breaking down your meals into 6-12 small meals will keep your digestive system working and that should raise your metabolism. Same with exercising. Making you body use up calories will make it want to use the ones you just ate. By the way, to much stress will slow down the effects of weight loss. Try yoga to calm down and relax. If you need any help you can talk to me. But I am not a pro.