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I finished my Master's degree with a 3.9 GPA yesterday and strangers were more excited than my own family. If it were my brother finishing his law degree my parents would be ecstatic...but who cares about a little 'ole Masters?
Danlyn Danlyn 21-25, F 3 Responses Dec 22, 2007

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CONGRATULATIONS DANLYN! WOOT WOOT!!! I think that is a FABULOUS achievement for which you undoubtedy worked very hard. You will always be glad you did it and you will benefit greatly for the rest of your life.

Why do some people think something a man does is so much greater than anything women can do? Sounds like that could be what's going on here. Couple of examples: My sister and I would both tell our aged mother the same thing about taxes, finance, whatever - and she would discount it. But WHOAH! When Peter the yard man tells her, it's GOSPEL. One more: When people see a woman with a toddler or two in the grocery store, they think nothing of it- but WHOAH! If it's a MAN then he must be some kind of HERO! I call it the wienie factor - our culture can definitely tend to favor men over women and I hate to tell you but it has been this way for a long time and probably won't change too much anytime soon. You are very likely to see the wienie factor in action all through your career - I did. You will just have to outshine them, is all I can tell you.

A funny story came to mind that is just so fittig and was so easy to locate - I hope you will see the humor in it and feel a little bit better today.

The year is 2016 and the United States has just elected the first woman president, who happens to be from West Virginia. A few days after the election the president-elect calls her father and says, “So, Dad, I assume you will be coming to my inauguration?”

“I don’t think so. It’s a 10-hour drive.”

“Don’t worry about it Dad, I’ll send Air Force One. And a limousine will pick you up at your door.”

“I don’t know. Everybody will be so fancy. What would your mother wear?”

“Oh Dad, I’ll make sure she has a wonderful gown custom-made by the best designer in Washington.”

“Honey,” Dad complains, “you know I can’t eat those rich foods you eat.”

“Don’t worry Dad. The entire affair will be handled by the best caterer in Washington; I’ll ensure your meals are salt-free. You and mom just have to be there.”

So Dad reluctantly agrees, and on Jan. 20, 2017, their daughter is sworn in as president of the United States with her parents in the front row.

Noticing the senator sitting next to him, the father leans over and whispers, “You see that woman over there with her hand on the Bible, becoming president of the United States.”

The senator whispers back, “You bet I do.”

Dad says proudly, “Her brother played football at WVU.” (or fill in the college name of your choice)

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Yeah, congratulations, that's awesome and really an achievement!

I have a similar problem, with parents who say I can't deal with college and treating me like a small kid though I'm close to graduating with a BS degree and my grades are relatively good and strangers tell me I'm intelligent, so I hear you.

I hope you can show your family what you're worth, because you definitely are :) Good luck!

I was so astounded to grow up and find out I was not ugly and stupid like my father always told me. Parents don't need to tear their children down before they even get started - hard knocks in the world will take care of some of that later on!

So I used to set out determined to prove him wrong. Eventually I realized it was his own insecuriy.

Good for you on that BS degree - you probably have it by now. Do it for yourself. You will benefit greatly, always.

another stranger here, but I think it's pretty awesome that you finished your master's with a 3.9. congrats! and I hope your family realizes how great that is. It must be hard feeling like they don't care..