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I Feel Guilty

I Am An Ignorant Lil Brat

By: HisLady
Written on August 13th, 2009

My best friends husband lost his job about 6 months ago due to the ression he has not found a new job. My husbands job was not effected by the ression.

I had her over today so she could meet my new puppy and I (joking) made a comment about how bad her roots were. I was trying to imply that we do a salon day together, but appearntly those were fighting words. She flipped out at me saying how my husbands company took all the work, and I sit in my house and ignore the fact that everyone is suffering.  I didn't know what to say.  I do...  I am a bad friend. I did notice that she was shopping at value stores and that her children were in the same clothes and not ever wearing new ones. I just didn't want to talk about it I guess I thought it would be over by now and her hubby would be back to $100,000.00 a year and we could go shopping together for school clothes.  I tried to offer to take her out so we could talk, but she was just so mad at me. I am ignorant, and I take my life for granted a lot of the time. I feel aweful for flaunting my life at her I didn't mean to tho. I guess I  was just pretend that nothing had changed because I was expecting that nothing would. It seems that her being low income has changed our friendship and I fear that we will never go back now to the way we were befor :(

By: HisLady
Age: 22-25 , Female
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  • HisLady
    HisLady

    Awez! thank-you

    Mar 20, 2010
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  • Vaiolet
    Vaiolet

    Reading your story made me think. I've had a friend since I was 3 who was not financially stable as my family was. I was going shopping with a lot of money and she would come with just a few cents. I always took her out, I payed things for her and she would say how it was not necessary etc..

    But, I mean, our friendship had always been the same. We would talk about our situations, make jokes and just not feeling guilty because it was not something we could change. Now her situation is worse but still, that doesn't mean that it's my fault and she would never be so angry at me. I think your friend was just too frustrated by what had happened to her hubby to notice how it was not your fault. I mean, come on, what would have changed? What if you were concerned about her and than she would have freaked out because " I don't need your help, only because you're richer it doesn't mean that you can treat people as if they all needed your support". I don't think that you did something wrong. I don't know what you could have done to change it, it's not something that YOU can change. You're still a good person, don't feel guilty, your friend was just too stressed about everything that has changed in her life and she just wanted someone she could blame for it. It's normal. She'll understand her mistake, and if she doesn't she doesn't deserve you.

    Mar 13, 2010
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