Going Nowhere Marriage

As you can tell with my Username "Nosexlife". That is my real problem in my marriage going nowhere's. My husband and I have been together for 25 years and we are going on to a year without sex now. We are just not attracted to each other and we have been this way for about 15 years. It is now to the point were we just feel uncomfortable holding or even kissing each other. More so for me, I mean he tries to kiss me and I feel "dirty". I don't know what is happening to me. I feel I am the ptoblem, but then it's both of us. We have a more arguementive type of marriage. We grumble daily about little stuff just to get each others attention.  My husband likes to spend money to help his emtional problems. When I spend money I feel guilty at this point in my life, because I want to save money. I went to see a doctor to check on my hormones two days ago, and my husband was with me. i told her I had a no libido problem and she gave me some cream to rub on my clitorus. The doctor told me to rub it on during foreplay and my husband got a little excited about it. but that even he didn't even want to try it with me. What the hell?! I tired of this already!! Both of us even tried marriage counseling for a  year and that didn't work. I feel like a not attractive to him and he just doesn't want me. We just live together like roomates and jusy pay the bills together, go out to eat, and take out dog to the park to run. I feel like I'm in a loveless marriage too. What should I do? I feel like a separation maybe the answer for now.

nosexlife nosexlife
51-55
2 Responses Mar 7, 2009

I would leave and take a lover.....you deserve to enjoy your life...my life is just like yours....I hope you figure things out soon for yourself

Wow! It seems to me that your situation is very dire indeed. My situation kind of mirrors yours, and I know how futile it can make you feel.<br />
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Have you considered leaving? Or maybe taking a lover?<br />
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I do hope you find happiness soon.