Failure? Not An Option.This is a strange group for me to write in.
I have been married but had no children. Unfortunately due to my disability that was never an option. My marriage ended after five years, but I've never thought of it as a failure.
I never managed to establish a career, I tried several, but circumstances always seemed to conspire against me.
I have never written a book, climbed a mountain, swum the channel, rowed an ocean or pushed from John o' groate s to Lands end.
I have never done great works for charity.or established a pressure group to fight for better rights for the disabled.
I have no job, havn't had since 1986. I have no marketable experience, no useful qualifications.
I have only one friend. most of the others are now dead.
I have no real family to speak of, my sisters have no idea what being me is like.
If I dropped dead tomorrow, only Nigel would miss me, and he'd probably be the only person to truly mourn my passing.
So, not a fabulous success.
I often wonder who the council will move in here when I'm gone. Will they care for my garden, or will it, like me quickly become just a memory. Mainly held
in Nigel's mind.
Despite all of the above, I do not feel like a failure, never.
To reach the age of 62 (next week) I have survived for fourty five 45 years as a paraplegic. I have overcome, kidney failure, car crashes, more surgery than I can remember, increased disability, brain damage, bereavements, discrimination, clinical depression and the gradual collapse of my body.
I still live alone. the only help I have is from Nigel, mainly in the garden, and with essential trips to town or hospital.
I feel that still being alive, relatively happy most of the time, and still planning for the future, is an almost unbelievable success.
I have nothing to show for my 62 years on this planet except the fact that I'm still here.
I am still here, a cheerful, kind, helpful, well adjusted, averagely intelligent old cripple.
Plus I have lived a life that would make many others seem terribly dull.
So, my story doesn't really belong in this group, failure was never an option.