He Has Become A Stranger To Me

Today was so horrible. I got up, got ready, and spent some quiet time with my children. Their Dad got up a short time later and went back to work upgrading his computer to Windows 7. It went fine for awhile but then there was some sort of glitch and he demanded complete quiet so he could concentrate. We have three very active boys (ages: 11, 6, and 2). They don't do complete quiet. He kept getting louder and more demanding every time the boys made any noise at all. I just got so stressed out over the whole thing I needed some quiet, some time to destress. I got the children ready to leave the house as quickly as I could, and left for the grocery store where my children proceeded to go a little nuts. (Could I blame them? I felt the same way.)

Ten minutes into our trip my children had finally settled down and we were ready to check out only to look down and my purse was gone. We searched and searched only to come up empty. My whole life was in there. I was totally freaked. I was also dreading the phone call home.  I was at my wits end, and I was stuck at Wal-Mart with three young children. I had no idea where my purse was or how we were going to get back home. I really didn't want for my babies to have to walk home in the freezing wind and rain outside. After yan hour of panicked searching and one call to the police, I finally gave in to the inevitable. I had to call him to let him know and to hopefully get some advice and support.

No such luck. When I told him he started the standard interrogation. Where is it? How could I lose something so important? What the h@#l is wrong with me? -and the worst one- why do always screw everything up? I was crying and he was basically kicking me when I was down. It just would have been nice to hear that it was okay; that we would figure it out together; that the important thing was that the boys and I were safe, etc. He used to be that kind of guy.

I don't know what to think but that he is not the man I married. Where did he go? He used to swear that he loved me and would never hurt me for anything. It doesn't seem like he feels that way anymore. I just don't know what to do anymore. Where do we go from here? What do I do now that he has clearly shown that he has no faith in me?

myangeleyes123 myangeleyes123
31-35, F
1 Response Feb 27, 2010

As much as it might hurt, get your kids and get out. Do you have any family you could turn to? If not, try a motel or a shelter until you can figure something out. This guy seems like he's losing his patience. That's his problem, but I'm afraid for you and your children. Get out before he either hurts you, the kids or takes you out himself. If he cared or wasn't completely messed up, he woudn't interrogate you, he would either come get you, send for a cab or whatever and make sure you and the kids are ok. That should've been his main priority. And you need to be the one to point that out to him while you're walking out the door. Show him how it feels. Good Luck. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers.