Feel Like I Have to Lie

I feel like i have to lie to make friends. i always tell them how my extended family and i are inseperable, when in fact, you can't get me and my cousins in the same room. i feel like i have to dumb mysself down and get bad grades so my gfriends don't think i'm a nerd. i feel like i have to tell my mom that i had a great day, when in fact, i'm sitting on the bleachers, again. ALONE.  i try to express my views on religon, and end up getting shunned. why does this have to happen?
redryanluvr redryanluvr
18-21, F
4 Responses Mar 7, 2007

u are blessed .. dont ever make this mistake again by underestimationg yourself, let people decide what they want.. be urself

Cynosure, I just have to say D@mn you're good!

If you feel that others don't know it's because they DON'T. <br />
The sooner you realises that, the better for you.<br />
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And it's not a bad thing. It's just a fact. Nobody will ever really "know" you - nor do they have to for you to be happy in life. <br />
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If you're relying on other people's "understanding" of you, you will keep being disappointed.<br />
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And the things that you describe... That doesn't HAVE to happen. You are letting it happen, because you care about the opinion of others. Perhaps you think caring about the opinion of others is equal to being friendly to them. <br />
It's not.<br />
And anyone who would condition their friendship with your obeying their opinion is no friend of yours.<br />
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You have the right to demand ACCEPTANCE of who you are. Period. Acceptance - not (necessarily) "understanding".<br />
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I am living proof that such a state of mind is viable and can lead to an enormously fulfilling life. So - take courage. ;)

If you feel that others don't know you, it's because they probably DON'T. The sooner you realise that, the better for you. And it's not a bad thing. It's just a fact. Nobody will ever really "know" you - nor do they have to for you to be happy in life. If you're relying on other people's "understanding" of you, you will keep being disappointed. And the things that you describe... That doesn't HAVE to happen. You are letting it happen, because you care about the opinion of others. Perhaps you think caring about the opinion of others is equal to being friendly to them. It's not. And anyone who would condition their friendship with your obeying their opinion is no friend of yours. You have the right to demand ACCEPTANCE of who you are. Period. Acceptance - not (necessarily) "understanding". I am living proof that such a state of mind is viable and can lead to an enormously fulfilling life. So - take courage. ;)