I Have Something to Say Too.

Sometimes I feel like no one listens to me, or doesn't care about what I have to say. I suppose this is why I never tell anyone my problems, or feelings. Even my mother doesn't listen to me. I could be telling her something and then she will start to talk over me. Or in a store I will start commenting on something and she just continues on like I'm not even speaking. There could be another person walking by and looks at me like I'm crazy and just talking to myself. Even with some of my friends, I might be saying something and they act uninterested and talks to someone else while I'm speaking. I suppose this is why I have become a quiet person and feel like I never have anything to say of interests.  If I'm on the phone with certain people I can't think of anything to say because I will think of something and think "oh they don't care". Then the harder I do try to think of something to say, the harder it becomes.

Anyway I do have something to say, just like everyone else. You just need to give me an ear.

Krysta Krysta
22-25, F
14 Responses Mar 9, 2009

maybe we're have a different favorite things with other people or our friends. so, if we tell to our friends like "do you know this guitarist? he's cool" and they're like "what are you talking about?" i think a lot of the people only talk to the 'example' justin bieber's fan not to oliver sykes fan. i think like that, bu i dont know.
all of the people dont listen to me to, i just feel like a dust
and sometimes i really feel alone and cant share my story to anyone cuz anyone wont listen to me.
uh sorry, i have a bad english :(

I completely understand! I am sure you have plenty of interesting things to contribute, I'd love to hear them!

The exact same thing for me. :<br />

I know how you feel. People at school bully me and when i try to speak I my mum my step dad buts in and tells me to shut up. I know she cares but I think he wants me to be unhappy. Just remember there are people put there who understand. You are not alone

Gosh, I thought I was the only one walking in stores talking to myself while I'm with someone. This story made me feel a little bit better, thanks! Its good to know that I'm not the only one in the world who gets shut out or is deemed "not-interesting-enough"<br />
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This kind of thing can make a person lose interest in everything. My mother repeatedly tells me " I just wanna say something quickly" whenever I talk to her, this is usually than followed by a monologue about whatever is wrong in her life. Once she told me while waiting with me in a parked car, that she didn't have the time to listen to me. She wasn't doing anything at that stage.<br />
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My sister and brother are the same way. <br />
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Thing is that people like these don't realise just how hurtful they are. How it feels to be completely ignored. It feels like there's a language barrier between you guys and you're the one that speaks 'stupid'<br />
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I've taken a more dratic step. I get into arguments alot with my family about this which leads to them shutting me out even more. Because " how dare I be so selfcentered!"<br />
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It is pretty frustrating, i guess hte only thing one can do is focus your time and eb=nergy on something postitive and completely ignore those negative ones.<br />
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Thanks for your story, I can relate!

i have a similiar problem. i make it a point to be an active and attentive and caring listener, but no one is ever interested in what i have to say. i keep getting interrupted, and people are just so rude you wouldn't believe it.... and the irony is that because of my good listening skills, people around me come to me and share their problems and sorrows ... and yet they never seem to stop to ask me how i am, or how i feel, or what i want. even if they do ask, it's more of a formality....you can see it in their eyes that they are simply not interested in what you have to say, and they cannot wait to interrupt to speak what's on their minds....<br />
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i am honestly at my wits' end to solve this... in fact i Googled "Help no one listens" and i stumbled upon this site.... any suggestions? ideas? anything... to break this cycle... help.

I feel the same! my family pays no attention to what I say.. sometimes I have stories to tell about what happened to me in school but they seems to not care about that. If I start saying something to my mom, in the middle of my talking I fined her talking to someone else or going somewhere else! l stand there so awkwardly and blaming my self talking to her or my family. I think my friends are there to listen but I don't feel confident talking to them about my problems becuase I don't think we're close enough. I feel like I have put a shield in front of me that no one is able to break.. I suffer from not one ever paying any attention..

I feel the exact same way and I wish my family actually cared or my friends... But no! I say something and five minutes later someone else says the same exact thing as if they had not heard me.uh HELLO?????I get in trouble hor things I did wrong (which I am rarely wrong )and it's only because my brother who hurts me more than do to him is not "right"...I suffer the pain of others and all I want for is someone to listen and care...please help.should I go to therapy with my problems?

I feel the exact same way and I wish my family actually cared or my friends... But no! I say something and five minutes later someone else says the same exact thing as if they had not heard me.uh HELLO?????I get in trouble hor things I did wrong (which I am rarely wrong )and it's only because my brother who hurts me more than do to him is not "right"...I suffer the pain of others and all I want for is someone to listen and care...please help.should I go to therapy with my problems?

I feel like the worst thing is when your family treats you like that. They do the same with me. I have confronted them about it, but they don't care. I was starting to think that maybe it was a "youngest child" thing (trying to find a reason and solution), but that shouldn't be. I don't know.

omg, i so feel your angst. mine has built up over time and unfortunately it becomes a part of who you are. you so want others to "get" you and your silence in social settings but they never do - even those closest to you. i know i'm a strong and valuable person as you are too - and we need to fight for our selves, cuz no one else will. no pity parties here. let it out. what's to lose?

i'd hear anything u want to say babes, because u r human, who has feelings and needs to express them like everyone else. Thats what's so cool about online friends doll. you are not alone and people will hear you on hear. Bless you. x

Thanks, I have in the past wrote, and even took a creative writing class. I haven't written in years though. It's sad that you didn't make a career out of writing theredlady. I hope that you keep writing though. And yes, Lacey13, I have found some very nice people on EP that has listened. I hope that you're eperiences of this happen less and less.

I grew up with that same problem. I ended up a loner with a complex.<br />
I found release in writing. I wrote poetry mostly, but I also tried writing short stories. My stories were a personification of my frustrations with the people I cared most about. They were my adversaries in my fantasy stories. <br />
Never pursued a writing career, though. I didn't have the confidence in myself. I found that people became interested in what I have to say whenever I wrote. It was strange, I suddenly became important.<br />
You need to find a way to make your voice heard. It may not be in writing, but there is always a way to make yourself heard.<br />
Your just not loud enough. Stand up take a deep breath and just let your words soar from you. Don't take no for an answer. Someone will hear you. When one listens, then more will follow. It's that way with sheep. It's that way with Shepards. They are quiet, listening, watching. Then when the time comes and they whistle, the sheep listen and follow.