Sad, Crave Affection

My husband doesn't show me affection. He says he doesn't feel like having sex. We have only been married two years... I just feel sad and lonely. I don't know what to do. I've talked to him about it but it hasn't helped. He says he feels like no matter what he does I'm going to leave him. So he isn't even going to try? Is it to much to ask for him to fight for this?
jodigail jodigail
1 Response Jan 6, 2013

I have pretty much the same thing happening to me right now with my boyfriend of 7 years. We have sex on average twice a month. He complains that I don't "jump his bones" but when I try to make any kind of encore he acts like it's a chore to stop what he's doing and pay attention to me. He never touches me or tries to make love to me unless I complain, and it's getting harder to even do that, because who wants to be with someone who doesn't care? I'm so starved for affection, and can't even look at him with love anymore. When he falls asleep at night, he cuddles up and is sweet, but the minute he's awake he's distant and constantly in a bad mood. When I mention it, he says that I'm crazy and I'm imagining things. I used to think we'd get married and be together forever, but now I can't wait to get away from him. His attitude towards me makes me feel unlovable sometimes, but I know that's not true. I know whatever's going on, it's his problem, not mine. It's just sad to see things end up like this.