Now That Your Partner's Gone And You're Alone, Here's How To Deal With All The Pain That You're Feeling...

We both went through a lot of difficult times in those dark hours, days and weeks after our break- ups AND here are some important lessons for healing that can help you ...

As you can probably tell.. 

These breakups of our previous marriages affected us very deeply in very fundamental ways.
When our previous marriages broke up, we each searched for a solution to pain, the upset, feelings of unworthiness, isolation, anger, resentment, uncertainty and betrayal that was inside of us. 
You can probably now see what we eventually found out--that all these gyrations that you put yourself through after a break-up or divorce are just the ways you are trying to ease your pain and move on.
After the two of us got together in our relationship, we made the decision that we were going to do everything we could possibly do to make sure you (and everyone else we could reach) would never have to go through the pain and heartbreak that we went through.
This is one of the reasons we eventually decided to become relationship coaches.
It's also the reason we created our "How To Heal Your Broken Heart" program.

Now That Your Partner's Gone and You're Alone, 
Here's How To Deal With All The Pain That You're Feeling...

One of the best ways that will help you to heal from your break-up or divorce is to learn how to deal with your negative thoughts and out-of-control emotions that come up over and over.
They are actually keeping you in pain and believe it or not, you can learn to change them so that you can function better in your daily life.
We're not talking about controlling your thoughts.
What we are talking about is acknowledging your thoughts and emotions and then consciously changing them.
Not at all.
Maybe you have a toddler in your life or if you don't have one right now, you remember what it was like. You might remember diverting the toddler's attention whenever he or she was about to do something that might cause injury or pain.
You might have diverted the toddler's attention with a toy or something else that he or she might enjoy.
The point was to re-focus the toddler's attention toward something that was more desirable than the "dangerous" activity that he or she was focused on.
The same is true for you when you are feeling like a "victim" or "martyr" and it's keeping you stuck in the past--or you are deeply into blaming either yourself or your ex for what happened and that blame is holding you back from the life you want.
While you never should discount your feelings, you can begin to choose which ones you will focus on and which ones you aren't so that you start to feel better and move toward your healing.
apoorva123rose apoorva123rose
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Feb 13, 2011