I Feel So Many Things When I Hear The Tragedy's Of Others
I can read them, no problem there. It's just when someone starts, face to face, pouring their hearts out to me that I get extremely distressed. It's like they are transmitting their pain towards me, and I just can't handle that.
Of course, not all people are the same. I have noticed that it's easier for me to listen those who are are more or less calm about their situations, no matter how grave. For those who are in need of opinion or advice and not a shoulder to cry on, I can offer something. Some people who wear their hearts in their sleeves also tend to express their emotions very strongly, and I 'catch' those feeling easier. Like they were a disease.
Everybody needs help sometimes, but I truly respect those who can and will have control in their own lives even while in distress. When they ask for help, it just means that their resources aren't enough to handle the current situation and they wish to gain those resources. The complete opposite of this group are the ones that go to others and wish (or demand, in worst cases) them to take care of their problem.
This trait in has existed in me as long as I remember, and it has always stressed. Who is at fault when I can't answer to their need, me or them? Are they asking for too much, or am I just being too inflexible? Should I carry a part of their burden, even if it feels bad? After all, that's what friends are for and all that jazz.
My opinions and thoughts about the matter have been different in different stages of my life, but currently I think that yes, I'm just being inflexible.
Well, ****.
Despite the conclusion that I'm the one at fault, I still prefer not to act as confidant for my friends. They know it, and they also know it that it's not anything personal, I don't do it for anyone. The matter might be different if I ever get in a relationship, in that case I might have to. It's just a one person, after all, and if they do not have a serious case of depression, I should be able to handle that much. Probably.
Hopefully.
Of course, not all people are the same. I have noticed that it's easier for me to listen those who are are more or less calm about their situations, no matter how grave. For those who are in need of opinion or advice and not a shoulder to cry on, I can offer something. Some people who wear their hearts in their sleeves also tend to express their emotions very strongly, and I 'catch' those feeling easier. Like they were a disease.
Everybody needs help sometimes, but I truly respect those who can and will have control in their own lives even while in distress. When they ask for help, it just means that their resources aren't enough to handle the current situation and they wish to gain those resources. The complete opposite of this group are the ones that go to others and wish (or demand, in worst cases) them to take care of their problem.
This trait in has existed in me as long as I remember, and it has always stressed. Who is at fault when I can't answer to their need, me or them? Are they asking for too much, or am I just being too inflexible? Should I carry a part of their burden, even if it feels bad? After all, that's what friends are for and all that jazz.
My opinions and thoughts about the matter have been different in different stages of my life, but currently I think that yes, I'm just being inflexible.
Well, ****.
Despite the conclusion that I'm the one at fault, I still prefer not to act as confidant for my friends. They know it, and they also know it that it's not anything personal, I don't do it for anyone. The matter might be different if I ever get in a relationship, in that case I might have to. It's just a one person, after all, and if they do not have a serious case of depression, I should be able to handle that much. Probably.
Hopefully.
By:
Fearofsilence
Age:
18-21
,
Female
