I've been reading around lately, picking up on some spats that are going on here, and what I'm getting is that we are sometimes short on tolerance, patience and tact.
I think we need to remember why so many of us have come to value this place. Some of us are wise, some of us are playful, some of us are super smart, creative, honest. But most of us are hurt, stressed out, lonely. And we all deal with that in different ways.
Now it may be that since no one has attacked me yet in any way that I took personally, I may not have the perspective I need to understand why people are lashing out at each other. But I do understand that people who are trying to recover from bad events in their lives will lash out, will not always mean everything they say.
If there is one place on the web where patience and tolerance is needed, this is it. We have a lot to offer each other. But we are going to misunderstand each other, disapprove of each other, etc. This can't be a safe place if we're not going to be careful of how we criticize each other.
Lest anyone think this is a disguised attack on one person, I assure you it isn't. And I don't want to make it seem like if I felt like I was being attacked, I wouldn't lash out. I would. I have, not on this site, but another.
But it's depressing. This is becoming an important place to me, and it's like watching your family get in horrible fights, especially when you get the feeling that if you could just sit everyone down and have a moderated discussion, they'd see that they're all pretty good people. I suppose that's excessively optimistic. And it's depressing.