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Being Saudi Girl Is Like A Curse


I'm 22 years old and I'm saudi.. and because I'm a saudi woman, my father has the right to control me in EVERYTHING I do.. and everything I do is "not allowed" in his eyes even if it is allowed.. and I'm so sick of my life.. All I want is to be free,, free to do what I want and love, like any person in this life,, I don't want to take his permission in everything I do like: ( going out with my FEMALE freinds,  saying my opinion freely) everything is not allowed!!.. I'm 22 years old!! MATURE ENOUGH to be free and to depend on myself in any country... 
i'm completely alone...i'm total loser....nobody know i exist...........nobody care about me
my whole life is inside my room and go to work and then come back to my room again
i'm always locked in my room with no one hearing my voice
i have never had a true friend and i won't............
lonelywings lonelywings 22-25, F 23 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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All what I can say to u god being with you

I can be your friend. Even if we cannot see or hear each other peesonally. Just always think that in time you will be free.. You take care always

Look at all these people who are here for you.
Just because they are not infront of you physically does not mean that their care and love for you does not exist..
Bil3aks, the effort they have made to tell you they are available if you wish to talk and they ask you to stay strong shows they care even more than you imagine..
Have faith in people and always have hope. Without hope life is pointless.
You create a fullfilling life with hope :)

dude! you have no idea what its like to be a saudi girl.

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لابد من التعايش مع الواقع عندما نعجز عن تغيره والايام كفيله بذلك
دمتي سعيده

Hi
I wish now you are happy and in good health. Now day I am also to sad with my personnel problem.

I know how you feel , but maybe you have done something wrong in the past that made your parents treat you this way.
if you would like to chat find me same screen name on a97abi.com

hi

Oh dear,

I am reading your story in tears. I am not Saudi but I have some insight of the life. I must tell you, YOU ARE not ALONE. I too hate the culture. My husband is Saudi, and we live every day what will come of us, if his family finds out.

We are both Muslim, but because I am a convert and not Saudi, he's nervous they will push for a divorce which he knows they will and/or disown him or the worse torture him to death.

I wish these ideas of the culture will change. The more I pray to Allaah that they become more enlighten, the worse I feel that they will not change ever.

My husband is nervous for me to travel to Saudi fear of what they will do to me since his family has political tides to the King. So, basically if they want me dead, they could do it without problems within the kingdom.

I hope that soon the culture will become more enlighten to woman and men alike. And some how rid the kingdom of these corrupt people and ideas. I do not have high hopes for my in-laws, but please know if you ever want to talk or not feel so alone, you can always feel free to private message.

May Allaah grant you comfort and also an opportunity to break away from that hell.

I read your story and I feel sorry for you I'm saudi too, and you are right its like a curse, I know some friends who are in the same situation and I hope for their lives to get better same as you, its all about the CULTURE in here as the woman is still not responsible to be in her own. Like if she want to travel outside saudi arabia she needs a premission from her father or husband even if she is 50 yrs old she still need that premission.

I worked in KSA before, I just could not take the way of life there.
I was surprise how people can cope with the hot temperature and the mutaw3a everywhere.

Hey... I have read your story... I feel for you.. But dont worry I can be a friend to you.. I live in jeddah how about you... I am not a saudi... I am pinay... You can have my number if you ant to talk...

i no how you feel I'm a saudi to, just hang in there no matter what your pain is believe me some day its going to fade away and all the saddens your feeling will be just memories !!!!<br />
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and let me say this you are not a loser !!!!!!!!!!!<br />
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your a successful women ho has a job <br />
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your smart enough to speak english and express your self here <br />
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do not let depression consume you this illness sole perps is killing your self !!!!<br />
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why am i telling you this i have this disses my self and its dangerous<br />
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my advise to you is find somebody to talk to someone you trust <br />
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your more than welcomed if you want to talk to me ok!!!

be sure you are not the only one live like that , i am also saudi girl and live in the hell ,i have brothers who are the worst ever , they treat me like animel or even the worst , i have no friends at all ,i never go out after i finished school even when i go to wedding that comes 1 in year the people dont know who is me even i feel like first time i see the people , i dont go shopping at all , mom buy for me everything even if they let me go to shopping i feel like crying , what should i buy if i cant wear it or use it like makeup , terrible clothes i should wear i never put makeup even i dont know what makeup is , even i had phone but brother broke it and i have laptop but you know that i use when they sleep or they are away , i hide my laptop all the time , no allowed to watch tv , not allowed to listen to songs ihate my life because everything is not allowed and its allowed for my brothes , they enjoy the life in everything but me NO, i dont know what for they keep me alive , to watch me suffering or what , even i dont know why i write here for you ,i dont know what i get of writing that just to hear you say oh we are sorry for hearing that , i dont want anyone feel sorry for me or any saudi girls as long as you cant help us ,i wish if i could die soon ,its the only reason to end my great life ever <br />
so you are not alone , you and me and alot of saudi girls who cant write here live the same , at the least i can know that all of us cry in same time so i dont cry alone

be sure you are not the only one live like that , i am also saudi girl and live in the hell ,i have brothers who are the worst ever , they treat me like animel or even the worst , i have no friends at all ,i never go out after i finished school even when i go to wedding that comes 1 in year the people dont know who is me even i feel like first time i see the people , i dont go shopping at all , mom buy for me everything even if they let me go to shopping i feel like crying , what should i buy if i cant wear it or use it like makeup , terrible clothes i should wear i never put makeup even i dont know what makeup is , even i had phone but brother broke it and i have laptop but you know that i use when they sleep or they are away , i hide my laptop all the time , no allowed to watch tv , not allowed to listen to songs ihate my life because everything is not allowed and its allowed for my brothes , they enjoy the life in everything but me NO, i dont know what for they keep me alive , to watch me suffering or what , even i dont know why i write here for you ,i dont know what i get of writing that just to hear you say oh we are sorry for hearing that , i dont want anyone feel sorry for me or any saudi girls as long as you cant help us ,i wish if i could die soon ,its the only reason to end my great life ever <br />
so you are not alone , you and me and alot of saudi girls who cant write here live the same , at the least i can know that all of us cry in same time so i dont cry alone

be sure you are not the only one live like that , i am also saudi girl and live in the hell ,i have brothers who are the worst ever , they treat me like animel or even the worst , i have no friends at all ,i never go out after i finished school even when i go to wedding that comes 1 in year the people dont know who is me even i feel like first time i see the people , i dont go shopping at all , mom buy for me everything even if they let me go to shopping i feel like crying , what should i buy if i cant wear it or use it like makeup , terrible clothes i should wear i never put makeup even i dont know what makeup is , even i had phone but brother broke it and i have laptop but you know that i use when they sleep or they are away , i hide my laptop all the time , no allowed to watch tv , not allowed to listen to songs ihate my life because everything is not allowed and its allowed for my brothes , they enjoy the life in everything but me NO, i dont know what for they keep me alive , to watch me suffering or what , even i dont know why i write here for you ,i dont know what i get of writing that just to hear you say oh we are sorry for hearing that , i dont want anyone feel sorry for me or any saudi girls as long as you cant help us ,i wish if i could die soon ,its the only reason to end my great life ever <br />
so you are not alone , you and me and alot of saudi girls who cant write here live the same , at the least i can know that all of us cry in same time so i dont cry alone

Hi. I sympathise with your plight.<br />
First, I have a vested interest on this topic, as I am in love with a Saudi girl, from Jeddah.<br />
That is how I found this site, and your post, as I why trying to gain some understanding of her culture.<br />
I worry for your situation. Your father, like fathers everywhere I suspect, are set in their ways, and will rarely change their point of view. How is your relationship with your mother, and hers with him?<br />
Can she put some pressure on him to relax a little?<br />
I know little of your customs, so sorry if I am off the mark.<br />
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I once dated a Egyptian/Maltese girl, who lived with her family in Australia. While her father was educated and worldly, he was still very conservative, and took a LONG time to accept my relationship with his daughter, but eventually he came around to accepting it, and actually liked me. So, I guess what I'm saying is that there is hope.<br />
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I don't know your relationship to your father, but, I suggest trying to find a quiet time to sit down with him and saying you want to discuss something with him. Avoid being confrontational, but try to get your point of view across. Sit down first and work out what you want to say to him and how you will say it. Remember, most men are stubborn, so unless you can actually get him to see it from your perspective there may be little chance of success, especially if it gets argumentative.<br />
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If that is impossible, perhaps suggest you want to travel somewhere, do a course or a degree somewhere, to broaden your horizons, if you will. <br />
Short of marriage, that may be your only escape avenue if you cannot get him to see your point of view.<br />
In western countries at least, the mother has quite a bit of influence over the father in regards to their children. I don't know if that is the case in your country, but I would try that avenue first.<br />
Good luck

i totally understand the pain you might feel in this situation.<br />
but dere r situation we cant change, but we can definitely make them better.<br />
you know your father dont allow to go out, try making friends in office and talk to them,<br />
use this website to make friends and share your feelings.<br />
i know ths is difficult but we have just single life, now its upon you if you can try to make it more interesting.<br />
all the best.. try to be happy dr :)

May I pray for u my little Saudi girl I wish I could save u

thank you :)

all-desires at hotmail.co.uk

Hi really feel sorry for you.<br />
I know how is the feeling in being in such situation. <br />
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Get in touch with me ... I might be able to help you ..... Seriously<br />
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I tried to post my email. but it seems I cant do that here

i'm sorry for u. til today i thought being a woman in india is worse because of culture, abuse etc but situation is worst in your's.. im so sorry. i will pray for ur happiness. atleast find friends through internet.

thanks for the prayer my friend :)
reading everyone words makes me feel alot better
i will pray for all of you to find the peace,happiness and stratification in your life.....

I do feel really sorry for you, I hope someday you have the freedom you seek. Just keep telling yourself that you will see freedom and be able to live the life YOU want someday. It is possible if you believe.

thank you dear...i will try as much as i can to believe in myself hoping one day i can got the life that i deserve

So sad ! U may share your feelings with your close friends and choose better ideas for your happiness. May GOD help U.

thank you for reading and considerations ! i don't have any close friends it's hard to get know to new people here......