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I Feel Unwanted

Rejection Snowball

By: Cursedboy
Written on October 21st, 2008

I heard a comment today. "To be succesful, we must conform". The person who said it was actualy talking about buisness, but I thought, it really applies in life too. If we're different, in some noticable way, be that personality, emotionaly, physicaly, then we tend to not be trusted. We're shunned. Rejected. Of course, everyone gets rejected at some point in their lives. What seems to matter is what happens after. What support is there? Encouragment? Anyone to lean on, trust? When those things aren't there, it seems like one rejected leads to another, and another, and another. A rejection-snowball is created, and it just keeps getting bigger and bigger.

By: Cursedboy
Age: 36-40 , Male
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9 responses
  • Cursedboy
    Cursedboy

    So cold. A sharp, biting, cold that burns itself deep into you. And what you need to feel warmth again, just isn't there ....

    Jul 30, 2009
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    • Iwantoutofme
      Iwantoutofme

      I felt the same way soo many times! I know exactly.

      May 1, 2012
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  • Cursedboy
    Cursedboy

    Or, on the other hand, most people are shallow arseholes who just want to tow the 'popular' line ...

    Mar 8, 2009
    2 likes
  • Maga
    Maga

    rejection is the on the list of the worst things people can do to others.it breeds intolerance which urges the same effect in other people even though they identify with you and your experiences but they reject as the others do because they also don't want to be lonely and rejected.so it turns out to be a vicious circle.people behave like that because of their own fears and flaws they don't want to be brought to light.then they will be deciphered as normal which is inconvenient for them. i don't believe that they are so different from people they tend to reject, that they are unable to understand them.

    Mar 6, 2009
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  • Socklord
    Socklord

    Things to do: Find other people like me. Quit worrying about what other people think and get on with my life.

    Nov 26, 2008
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  • angeleyes2009
    angeleyes2009

    I totally agree with you. I embrace being different. As I've gotten older, I've stopped trying to conform, I am who I am. If people can't accept me for who I am, then I don't need them in my life.

    Oct 22, 2008
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  • Cursedboy
    Cursedboy

    The last 9 years I've been to 14 different therapists. In the end they all say that they can't help ...



    I'm not saying that we shouldn't be different. I don't understand why difference isn't more accepted and even celebrated. I just thought that what this person said seems to be true of the majority of society

    Oct 22, 2008
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  • lyricalongings
    lyricalongings

    I totally agree with your story.

    Oct 22, 2008
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  • boarderline
    boarderline

    I am different from most people in all three ways that you listed. I don't let this bother me, in fact I'm proud to be different from most people. I'm original, and if they don't like the way I am, they can go their own way and not try to change me.

    Rejection is a snowball only if you let it be one. Have you talked to anyone about your feelings? Counseling seems to help me in some areas of my life. Give it a try, it can't hurt.

    Oct 21, 2008
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