Rejection Snowball

I heard a comment today. "To be succesful, we must conform". The person who said it was actualy talking about buisness, but I thought, it really applies in life too. If we're different, in some noticable way, be that personality, emotionaly, physicaly, then we tend to not be trusted. We're shunned. Rejected. Of course, everyone gets rejected at some point in their lives. What seems to matter is what happens after. What support is there? Encouragment? Anyone to lean on, trust? When those things aren't there, it seems like one rejected leads to another, and another, and another. A rejection-snowball is created, and it just keeps getting bigger and bigger.

Cursedboy Cursedboy
36-40, M
8 Responses Oct 21, 2008

So cold. A sharp, biting, cold that burns itself deep into you. And what you need to feel warmth again, just isn't there ....

I felt the same way soo many times! I know exactly.

Or, on the other hand, most people are shallow arseholes who just want to tow the 'popular' line ...

rejection is the on the list of the worst things people can do to breeds intolerance which urges the same effect in other people even though they identify with you and your experiences but they reject as the others do because they also don't want to be lonely and it turns out to be a vicious circle.people behave like that because of their own fears and flaws they don't want to be brought to light.then they will be deciphered as normal which is inconvenient for them. i don't believe that they are so different from people they tend to reject, that they are unable to understand them.

Things to do: Find other people like me. Quit worrying about what other people think and get on with my life.

I totally agree with you. I embrace being different. As I've gotten older, I've stopped trying to conform, I am who I am. If people can't accept me for who I am, then I don't need them in my life.

The last 9 years I've been to 14 different therapists. In the end they all say that they can't help ...<br />
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I'm not saying that we shouldn't be different. I don't understand why difference isn't more accepted and even celebrated. I just thought that what this person said seems to be true of the majority of society

I totally agree with your story.

I am different from most people in all three ways that you listed. I don't let this bother me, in fact I'm proud to be different from most people. I'm original, and if they don't like the way I am, they can go their own way and not try to change me. <br />
Rejection is a snowball only if you let it be one. Have you talked to anyone about your feelings? Counseling seems to help me in some areas of my life. Give it a try, it can't hurt.