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I Fell In Love With My Best Friend

My Husband, My Best Friend...

By: Invisible2unow
Written on May 16th, 2011
I met my husband when I was 19, he was 26. I met him through a guy I was sleeping with (ironic I know). The guy I was sleeping with wanted to "test" me, and see if I would cheat on him. He brought his friend down to meet me; his mistake! We ended up staying up the entire night talking, laughing, sharing, and getting to know one another. He ended up moving in with me shortly after. We were not intimate until years into the friendship, which created some confusion and chaos because I didn't want to lose my best friend (I think thats more of a woman thing, than a male issue). We remained best friends for 7 years, then we married :) We have been married for 13 years. We have grown up together, been through so many life experiences and life lessons together.
But, I do miss my best friend! The one I could share anything with; we are not as close as we were back then. Don't get me wrong, I love him with all my heart, but our years together have changed things. I think couples grow complacent, I think when you are with someone daily, you just naturally get too comfortable.
I've been working on myself, working on what I want out of my marriage, working on learning what makes my husband happy. Learning how people change as they grow older. Learning that you have to put the work into the marriage if you want to reap the rewards.
EP has taught me a lot, and I hope it continues to enlighten me.
I just wanted everyone to know that you can fall in love with your best friend and it can last a lifetime :)
By: Invisible2unow
Age: 41-45 , Female
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    madness45
    madness45

    I believe that "love" "trust" "honesty" are the basis for a relationship. Marriage is different as I'm sure you know. Marriage is building a life together, and you can only do that through mutual respect. If you dont have that, there is no "love" or "trust".

    May 8
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    dondeb82606
    dondeb82606

    You are truly a very wise person, nurture the relationship and it will only get better!!!

    Good Luck..

    Jun 3, 2012
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    rickibrat2
    rickibrat2

    best way



    i fell in love with my best friend at 12 years old

    we were married at 13 for love only not family way



    she lost her life at age 19 in viet nam the day after i was reported killed do to planbe crash the day beofre due to firnedly fire

    Jan 18, 2012
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    basco3030
    basco3030

    My belief is a marriage must be based on:

    1) Friendship (best friends)

    2) Truth/Honesty

    3) Unconditional Love!

    Jan 18, 2012
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      Invisible2unow
      Invisible2unow

      And is it really that way for you? R U living your beliefs? Don't take that wrong, just wondered if it's really possible. Thanks for the input :) My trust has been broken; I do not trust my husband.

      Jan 18, 2012
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    Mary1283
    Mary1283

    My parents met when my dad was 19 and my mom was 17. They got married a year later, two months after my mom graduated from high school. My oldest sister was born 9 months and 1 hour after the wedding ceremony! (Well, almost). They're still married 37 years later. I doubt they'll ever spilt up, although we witnessed some colorful fights over the years. (I learned a few new words.) That's what I hope for, but so far no luck. All the guys I've met just want to boink me. I'd love to stay up all night and share stories and have the intimacy follow after we've become friends.

    Nov 11, 2011
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      Invisible2unow
      Invisible2unow

      Mary, you will know when the right one comes along, and it will ALWAYS happen when you least expect it and aren't looking for love :) Then you will have your "Happily Ever After". But, guys wanting you can't be too bad LOL, means you are special! Take care

      Nov 11, 2011
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    djhytg
    djhytg

    You realy missed having a good freind

    Nov 5, 2011
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      Invisible2unow
      Invisible2unow

      Hmm? I don't understand?

      Nov 5, 2011
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    RRFan
    RRFan

    I enjoyed your story. I also married my best friend's ex-girlfriend. I waited until after they broke up. We have been married now for fifty years and she is still my best friend. It would be an honor to be added to your circle.

    Nov 1, 2011
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      Invisible2unow
      Invisible2unow

      Thanks RRFan. Congratulations on being married for 50 yrs, that's fantastic. Must have been a lot of give and take to make it that long!

      Nov 2, 2011
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    Invisible2unow
    Invisible2unow

    Hey sexless, Thank u for commenting. I think we grew up, changed, and lost intimate contact with one another through those years. Often I feel like I'm living with a stranger. I think we should have used Rustoleum LOL!

    May 27, 2011
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