I Met Him On Ep
I didn't set out to meet someone. Neither did he. He emailed me after he read one of my stories - I emailed him back. The first thing that attracted him to me was his great sense of humour.
Before long we started cyber sex with each other - I loved it! He was a wonderful, inventive and romantic lover on line. My heart strings were tugged!
And now, two months later, we are emailing, texting and phoning each other every day! We share our fantasies for the future. We talk about everything in our lives. It is the most intense emotional relationship I have ever had.
We plan to meet but we are sorting out some serious stuff in our own lives first. Then we'll see if we can make a go of our relationship in the real world.
I was one of those who looked down on on-line relationships - what a fool I was! On-line relationships, by their very nature, require a very high level of communication. You can't avoid communicating by doing other things. You HAVE to share everything through your words. And so you really get to know the other person in much more depth than you would if you were just dating.
And we are not young - we are both 57! But we feel like 17 year olds. I wish everyone could experience the joyous delight of such a relationship.
Five months from when we met . . . we are happier and more exstatic about each other than ever! We recently had our first ever meeting on real life and it was better than either of us had imagined or hoped! We are so in tune with each other - emotionally, intellectually, sexually - in every way!
I ask myself very often how it is that I have been SO lucky!! I wish everyone on EP could have this same magical experience . . . .
Update (March 2011) :
It is now over two years since we mety on line and next month we will celebrate outr first anniversary (one year) of living together. Everything about our relationship is brilliant - it just gets better and better . . . . And I still ask myself how I am so lucky. . . And I still wish EVERYONE could enjoy such a wonderful relationship.
Update (September 2013)
We are happily living together in the house we bought together. After living together now for nearly three and a half years, our's is no longer a "new" relationship. The initial excitement has subsided, to be replaced by a deeper and steadier sense of love and of commitment. We know each other very well now - although we continue to learn new things! We have a "rhythm of life" to our days that fits us both. We have acknowledged and accommodated our differences (such as him being a night owl and me being an 'early to bed, early to rise' person) in ways that mean our lives are not disadvantaged by them.
Like all couples we don't always agree. Our interests are not always the same. But our arguments can probably be listed on one hand . . . Our life together is, as we both say, so EASY! And I would encourage everyone in difficult marriages or relationships to consider this:
Your relationship is not intended to be a battle ground. You should NOT need to guard you statements. You should NOT need to fear being put down or criticised. You should NOT have a feeling of dread whenever you contemplate dealing with a difference of opinion. None of us can expect "perfect" - because none of us IS perfect! But we can expect to share our lives with the people we love without constant conflict, lack of respect, or other seriously negative emotions.
Neither Baz nor I would suggest our relationship is "ideal" for everyone - but it works for us. And we work on making it work for us. We know we are immensely fortunate - and we wish all others the same good fortune.