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I Met Him On Ep

I didn't set out to meet someone.  Neither did he.  He emailed me after he read one of my stories - I emailed him back.   The first thing that attracted him to me was his great sense of humour.

Before long we started cyber sex with each other - I loved it!  He was a wonderful, inventive and romantic lover on line.  My heart strings were tugged!

And now, two months later, we are emailing, texting and phoning each other every day!  We share our fantasies for the future.  We talk about everything in our lives.  It is the most intense emotional relationship I have ever had.

We plan to meet but we are sorting out some serious stuff in our own lives first.  Then we'll see if we can make a go of our relationship in the real world.

I was one of those who looked down on on-line relationships - what a fool I was!  On-line relationships, by their very nature, require a very high level of communication.  You can't avoid communicating by doing other things.  You HAVE to share everything through your words.   And so you really get to know the other person in much more depth than you would if you were just dating.

And we are not young - we are both 57!  But we feel like 17 year olds.  I wish everyone could experience the joyous delight of such a relationship.


Five months from when we met . . . we are happier and more exstatic about each other than ever!  We recently had our first ever meeting on real life and it was better than either of us had imagined or hoped!  We are so in tune with each other - emotionally, intellectually, sexually - in every way!

I ask myself very often how it is that I have been SO lucky!!  I wish everyone on EP could have this same magical experience . . . .

Update (March 2011) :
It is now over two years since we mety on line and next month we will celebrate outr first anniversary (one year) of living together.  Everything about our relationship is brilliant - it just gets better and better . . . .   And I still ask myself how I am so lucky. . . And I still wish EVERYONE could enjoy such a wonderful relationship.

Update (September 2013)
We are happily living together in the house we bought together.   After living together now for nearly three and a half years, our's is no longer a "new" relationship.  The initial excitement has subsided, to be replaced by a deeper and steadier sense of love and of commitment.  We know each other very well now - although we continue to learn new things!   We have a "rhythm of life" to our days that fits us both.  We have acknowledged and accommodated our differences (such as him being a night owl and me being an 'early to bed, early to rise' person) in ways that mean our lives are not disadvantaged by them.

Like all couples we don't always agree.  Our interests are not always the same.  But our arguments can probably be listed on one hand . . .   Our life together is, as we both say, so EASY!    And I would encourage everyone in difficult marriages or relationships to consider this:

Your relationship is not intended to be a battle ground.  You should NOT need to guard you statements.  You should NOT need to fear being put down or criticised.  You should NOT have a feeling of dread whenever you contemplate dealing with a difference of opinion.    None of us can expect "perfect" - because none of us IS perfect!  But we can expect to share our lives with the people we love without constant conflict, lack of respect, or other seriously negative emotions.

Neither Baz nor I would suggest our relationship is "ideal" for everyone - but it works for us.  And we work on making it work for us.  We know we are immensely fortunate - and we wish all others the same good fortune.

enna30 enna30 56-60, F 77 Responses Apr 6, 2009

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Hello. I am in the same boat as you were years ago. We still haven't met so we're still not sure. We both think so perfectly of each other. I am so afraid we might not meet each other's expectations. I still have to wait 9 more months cause we also have to sort things out in our lives before we meet. I want it to be him. I don't want to try another online LDR after this.

I guess I'll just have to keep believing... Yours and a few other stories here are truly inspiring... But on the other hand making me get too carried away and making me imagining things that are not what they seem to be... What a dilemma... I now am in tears...

I think it's the same whether it's online or in the real world. It's rare...but when it happens it's worth everything. You should be careful...and still open to the possibility. You deserve nothing less than 100 %.

I love this story...Thank you for sharing this. How incredibly generous!

I too met and fell in love with someone I met online. The entire key to holding this and feeling it's something completely worth it ALL... is your communication.
Internet or online romance is not so difficult. You have to become friends first. Talking (typing) asking questions of all kinds. Opening yourself to be probed with your most inner thoughts. One seems to have more freedom in their feelings.It's mainly because you have learned to give more of yourself, with nothing held back. You don't see the face in front of you all shocked at what you just said. BECAUSE it's REAL and not fake.
I married my love, and after an incredible 10 years he had a severe stroke. I'm over the shock now since this was 2 years ago. However he had to be placed in an assisted living facility. I simply was not physically able to care for him on my own. He cannot speak and is paralyzed his right side. He angers quickly. Cries a lot. I am done mourning my loss ... but for a time, our DREAM did come true.

I am relocating to be with the man I fell in love with here on EP too. I am 49 (for 6 more months and he will be 45 tomorrow) I've been married twice. Him, once and neither of us have ever felt anything like this. I know I haven't ever really loved anyone before. I am a loving person but not this. What you went through with your husband is one of my biggest fears now. I don't obsess on it but it's there. I am both happy that you had 10 wonderful years and heart broken at the time that was cut short. Maybe you will have a miracle healing and your dream can continue. This is my wish for you.

Wow - just wow. I'm so glad you found happiness, love and friendship. Your story is uplifting and gives me hope. :)

My absolute favorite EVER on EP. -THIS- made me cry, my husband hasn't seen me cry in what 2 years? Because I keep getting proof that love exists- the real enduring love. And I failed at it.

The both of you are amazing!

Weird, this is sort of situation I've had on here as well. So glad for you both! Thank you also for the updates it really sounds like a wonderful time you two are sharing.

Wish you happy forever happy! and for others,I may give you a site,maybe you can find your true love,like this,here:

Thank you so much for updating and sharing this. I met mine on EP as well, we've been living together for two years now!

Love it... i wish i could find someone too...

Thank you for the post! Wishing you happiness! Your experience is encouraging!

That sounds great. I love to hear about other people finding love and happiness even if it isn't considered,"perfect" by other parties. Good luck you guys and keep the great stories coming.

love the most recent update! so glad you have found happiness with each other.

I am so happy for you and thank you for sharing... i needed to hear that ep relationships can and do work out!!

This is the story I have been looking for!!!!
The happy story!!!!!
It is really wonderful and refreshing to read this type of story!
Thank you so much for sharing, updates and all!

I needed to read this. Thank you.

That is fantastic! I enjoy reading stories like this, especially since it kinda hits home for me.
If you don't mind me asking how far were you in distance before you started living together?

We were living in adjoining States. Australian States are pretty big so we were nearly 600 miles apart. But as Baz has said, we were so lucky we were on the same continent and that it was possible for us to meet.

We have now been living together for over three years and it just gets better and better. I know how very fortunate I am . . .

That's a lovely story.

Wow, I hope I can find someone too,... are one of the very few fortunate one......

I know - and I am very grateful.

Really wonderful! I also am looking for the love of my life on EP. lonerwriter

That is just so wonderful! Good luck to both of you!

Amazing! So happy for you both!

so happy for you - great story <br />
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well done you !

So very happy for you!!!! Best wishes!!!

Uh - Huh! Met MY guy in a music share group. There I was a 50 year old; so unhappy and miserable. <br />
And wow! Sex really is better when you're older! He left everything in Montreal to come to Florida.

Awesome! Good luck!!

This is a wonderful story!<br />
I am so very happy to hear that things are working out for you.<br />
I hope you continue to have much happiness together. :)

That's so sweet.<br />
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On-line is just one more avenue to meet. I have had two relationships develop from on-line contact. Neither worked out, but that wasn't because of the venue, it was because I was reaching out of co-dependency and fear.<br />
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My current relationship has been all real life which has been a nice change for me, personally. It was nice to get to know someone over a long period before the romance came in. I never have done that before!

Enna i presume you are talking about Bazz. I must say i always enjoy reading both of your comments on here as i find that they are on the mark most times.<br />
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I got a taste of Bazz's humor yesterday when a troll on here tried to advertise a dating site. I told her to **** off than bazz private messaged me that he was shocked that i didn't take her up on her offer. It gave me a laugh.<br />
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Anyway glad to see you are both happy. <br />
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Take Care

That sense of humour gets me every time I confess! He told me a joke in one of our first PMs and I've been enthralled by it ever since. We regularly joke about the young and beautiful woman waiting to hear from him just 2.8 miles away (ad on ILIASM) as we calculate she lives in te middle of our lake . . . !

So very funny....ha...ha...ha...