Really? A Goal?

I've noticed that some people have made it a goal to fall in love with someone online. Believe me when I say that it's terrible to fall in love with someone online. Here are a few outcomes that can occur from such a thing.

  1. You could meet and and find that there is no compatability. Perhaps the other lied about a lot of who they are. Or maybe there are just those little things that annoy you too much to put up with it.

  2. You may never meet. If there is too much distance between the two of you, it is possible you will never meet. If this is the case you may wonder for the rest of your life if that person was "the one."

  3. All meeting aside, the relationship itself is not always pleasant. There are times when you will want to hug or kiss and there is nothing you can do. The physical part of a relationship is often taken for granted, but when you cannot comfort the man you love or kiss him passionately it's all you think about. Talking is great, but eventually you will want to go out on a date. You'll want to hug, but your arms won't reach. You'll want to be THERE for them rather than here for them. You'll be dreaming your life away until you can meet. And then my number one point may happen. If it does not, and everything is wonderful... then you'll still have to go home and that will be even more difficult.

Now that I have finished my rant, I'd like to point out that I have fallen in love with someone I met online. It's wonderful, the feeling of being in love. It's terrible to want to spend every moment with him and not be able to because of the distance. To want to fall asleep in his arms and wake up the next morning to find him watching me sleep. To want to just be with him.

amsthegreat amsthegreat
22-25, F
12 Responses Mar 15, 2010

We'll have to talk about this in private I think.

I have... and it doesn't make things easier now that I'm home again. I miss being held at night.

Love is powerful... and often painful. I wish you both the best of luck.

I, too, have fallen in love over the internet, twice. The first, we never met, and he broke my heart in ways I could never have imagined. I wrote a letter to him here on EP as a story, as my means to put it out there to the universe to try to let go of how much he hurt me. He was never on EP, so he would likely never read it.<br />
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The second, I am still in love with. He is my twin soul, at least I believe him to be. I don't know our future, but it aches inside knowing that I've never felt his arms around me....and yet, I know exactly how it feels, I know what it feels like when he kisses me...

Well, good luck to the two of you. I hope it works out for the best.

All I can say is good luck.<br />
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Cause the guy I was talking to was serious too, or so I thought. And of course, being me... I had to get myself involved with another man online. Although, he is wonderful, I am taking things slowly with him. I think I have enough battle scars for my age...

I've had a few online relationships. My first was when I was in high school. We we talking for about six months and saw each other a couple times. <br />
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The second was four months and he lives on the other side of the world, so we never even got to meet. Such is life.<br />
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Now I'm in another online relationship. He's closer, but it's still so hard. Hopefully we'll get to meet soon.

Yeah. Unfortunately, it's difficult to control who you love. You can try, but it's not often a successful endeavor. And, online is much more difficult than in person... as I pointed out above.

I agree completely. It's what I've been through. It's what I try to tell people who haven't.

Yep, that is exactly what I was thinking, JustLuna. I was simply speaking from my own experiences.<br />
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Good luck to you, Carrie19. I hope it works out for the best.

On-line dating has worked for me at last. But I had done so many mistakes before. I’d written to about 50 men (in different periods of time of course). Then when I thought I had chosen the right one something destroyed our relationship. It was usually jealous: we had not met in real but they were jealous I could write to other men.<br />
I have met with 3 men in real life. I found out the first man lived with a woman and his 2 children and he was not going to change anything in his life. The second man was pick-upper. He only used me and ran back home as fast as a frightening rabbit. <br />
At last I could find a right man. It’s really hard when I can’t see him every day and our chattering on-line isn’t enough. But we hope to become a couple and I’m going to move to his country. <br />
Trying on-line dating I got priceless experience of knowing different men. I used to be very naïve and believed everybody. I became more prudent but even the negative experience is useful for everybody. I do hope I’ll be happy at last. <br />
I wish you all the best.

Tell me about it, <br />
Is like keeping hopes <br />
And dreams that will <br />
Never come true