Pushed Over The Edge And Tired Of Being The Parent In The RelationshipI married my husband, almost 2 years ago knowing it was probably the wrong fit, but again.. like so many people, we think marriage isn't supposed to be easy, it takes work. After we were married, I found out my husband had back child support that he owed and that any tax return I would get back, would be taken to pay for his carelessness. I also found out that apparently having a good credit record wasn't that big of a deal for my husband since he doesn't like to pay bills (student loans, apartment leases being broken, etc). I've essentially taken on the responsibility of being the parent, paying the bills, planning vacations, initiating everything if I want it to get done. When I bring up my unhappiness, all of a sudden my husband wants to start helping around the house, paying a bill or two or over compensating with, "let me run you a bath" or "would you like a glass of wine" or "what can I do for you today".
My dilema is figuring out if i can get past the money issues and non disclosure of his financial situation. Am I committed to making this work in the long run? I have no intimacy with him b/c I am just resentful.