I Fell For Someone On The Internet And Almost Gave Him My Bank Details.

I spend too much time alone in my flat as I do not work, comsequently I use my computer to find interest groups, arts/crafts, chat line's or read emails. A few weeks ago I looked on a site that popped up called Metrodate.Sheffield.co.  It looked very interesting as in my town there were hundreds of interest groups that I could join. I registered with it as it was free and placed my personal details in. Within a few minutes I had 4 replies from men saying they lived in america. I read them and replied to a few but most of the introductions were almost word for word. Well it seemed strange so I blocked all but one who seemed very genuine and asked me to use another site to chat there. We spent hours each day talking, laughing and sharing common interest's. It actually felt really lovely to find a friend so easily. He sent me photo's of himself and also his 15yrs old son. I even printed them out to look at. He asked me to see me so I used my web cam. At this he said that I was beautiful and that he really felt that he loved me. I was very happy and I felt that we could have a long term relationship. He wanted to live in England with me as his wife and his son as my son. His son even sent me emails calling me his mum. . My life was going to be full of love and life and laughter again.  After almost ten years of living alone with no one special in my life this was the jack pot. Then I asked 'Frank' to buy himself a web cam so that we could see each other and connect even more. Frank was reluctant each time saying he would get one tomorrow when he went into town. He started asking me how many banks accounts I had because he wanted to let his company send me money to save for his flights. Also his son's birthday was coming up and he 'promised' him a laptop that cost $100.00 that he had already ordered it and that he didn't want to let his or my son down. Could I help him and send him some money from his new mum. This went on every day, Frank was constantly asking me for my bank details. I offered to give him my pay pal account but he insisted on my bank details. My suspicion's were that   this was a scam I never saw his face on web cam and didn't even know if he lived in america or had a 15years old son and told him so. Frank became very upset with me saying I didn't trust him. I didn't love him. However he continued to keep coming on line to try to persuade me. So my friends I nearly fell for a scam because I am lonely and I needed a friend to love. Is this the price to pay for chatting on the internet.

Chrissy53 Chrissy53
51-55, F
7 Responses Mar 4, 2010

Further to my comments in March re your experience.I was talking on Skype to my cyber space friend one day and when we had finished someone appeared on my Skype page wanting to be my friend. I fell for it and this "new" friend told me she was starving and would I give her some money by transferring from my bank account to an address in Africa!! I asked numerous questions of her about why she was starving. She was German and gave me an e mail address but she wanted my bank details etc. i asked her how she was on Skype chat if she had no money and was starving and why doesnt she get a job. I was fed lie after lie. This went on for a couple of days still wanting money from me.I refused. Then she made a mistake by saying her boy friend would kill her if she didnt get money. Once I refused to help she disappeared from Skype. There are some awful people trawling the internet and using scams.<br />
During this period I had already given my cyber friend a few hundred pounds to help her out with her credit card debts through bank transfers. I even took a risk and sent cash in the post to where she lives. Cant say where that is but the World Cup tournament was held there this summer.<br />
Sadly that relationship ended abruptly. I am too nice a person as I always try to help people out if i can. But now I am very wary when I chat on line.<br />
You know Chrissy you can stand a better chance of meeting someone nice in a shop or a launderette, I wasnt looking for anyone but I met my wife in a supermarket!. You get chatting and then it happens.Be very very careful.

Further to my comments in March re your experience.I was talking on Skype to my cyber space friend one day and when we had finished someone appeared on my Skype page wanting to be my friend. I fell for it and this "new" friend told me she was starving and would I give her some money by transferring from my bank account to an address in Africa!! I asked numerous questions of her about why she was starving. She was German and gave me an e mail address but she wanted my bank details etc. i asked her how she was on Skype chat if she had no money and was starving and why doesnt she get a job. I was fed lie after lie. This went on for a couple of days still wanting money from me.I refused. Then she made a mistake by saying her boy friend would kill her if she didnt get money. Once I refused to help she disappeared from Skype. There are some awful people trawling the internet and using scams.<br />
During this period I had already given my cyber friend a few hundred pounds to help her out with her credit card debts through bank transfers. I even took a risk and sent cash in the post to where she lives. Cant say where that is but the World Cup tournament was held there this summer.<br />
Sadly that relationship ended abruptly. I am too nice a person as I always try to help people out if i can. But now I am very wary when I chat on line.<br />
You know Chrissy you can stand a better chance of meeting someone nice in a shop or a launderette, I wasnt looking for anyone but I met my wife in a supermarket!. You get chatting and then it happens.Be very very careful.

How do the '.....ds' do it, they should be all hung. Im angry with all these scams and all you did were to put in your personal details not your bank details. <br />
I hate all of them. When im angry my blood boils and it takes me a lot to feel this way. Thanks for sharing this. Maybe we should start up an anti scam campaign through the internet????? Any of us interested. XXX

I shared my experience with my 'new friends' in the hope that other's will learn from it. I also had constructive feed back which helped me. Thanks to all of you for supporting me. XX

Your story highlights the "problem" with "scams" internet or otherwise, :-( Good for you!! Chrissy58, for getting wise and not giving out your details, to him! :-) I agree with with both goahead and silvertop, in their explanations, they pick on "vulnerable" lonely people like yourself, :-( A true friend, wouldn't dream of asking for your "bank details" or anything else of a personal nature!!, <br />
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Thank you for sharing your story! hon!! :-) <br />
WB xoxoxoxoxoxoxo :-)

You are very wise to ditch this person. Your experience makes think how many more vultures may be lurking out there someon gullible and naive.<br />
I am in the UK further south than you in Oxford shire.<br />
Silvertop

Never give out your infromation like that on the internet or right were you are for that matter, and friends would not ask for that kind of infromation, so glad you caught on God Bless goahead