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About Feminized Husbands

I see a lot of internet about “Husband Feminization.”  I find this to be an interesting trend.  I can also see what could lead up to such an idea.

For thousands of years of dating, a woman would try to pick the best man to be her boss.  This is ingrained in the karma that everyone is born with.  There was no women’s liberation, and marriage was defined in the man’s favor, so there was no choice either.

We still follow this plan.  As a practicing Buddhist, I call it a habitual pattern.  Even though dating and the wedding might be brief, a marriage can goes on for decades.  There is not much planning for this important part of our lives.  I don’t find it surprising that many women end up with men who want to be boss, but don’t really participate in the woman’s social life.  As a boss, a husband feels the right to keep saying no.

At this point, feminizing the husband can seem like an option.  Thus, there are all the fantasy stories about turning husbands into sissy maids, and about turning obstinate CEO’s into secretaries.  Unfortunately, none of this will ever actually happen.  Unless a husband is gender-variant, there is no way he could ever be made to dress like a woman.  The idea of feminizing a man is fallacious in the first place.

The worst stereotype is that wearing women’s clothes will make a heterosexual guy turn gay.  No one easily changes sexual orientation.  Transsexuals are transgenders that get the complete transition surgeries, and take high doses of hormones.  Many transsexuals claim to switch sexual orientation, but there have been no definitive studies.  High hormone doses probably just make some transsexuals turn bisexual instead.

I am gender-variant.  I live as a transgender woman full-time, but I can’t be feminized or emasculated.  I have a personality with any almost perfect balance between masculine and feminine concepts.  I am not interested in wearing frilly outfits or sissy clothes, but I do dress classily in skirts every day.  I no longer think of myself as dressing differently, and I modestly wear skirts as if I have been doing this all my life.

I am not going to wear high heels as a casual shoe, and certainly not to do house work.  I am able to interact socially as a woman, but there is always that disconnect for others that I am a heterosexual guy under the clothing and makeup.

There are thousands of lonely gender-variant guys available just dying to have a woman partner.  Karmic conditioning makes women say no without even thinking about it.  My resume of social skills is of no interest, because the age-old conditioning is to get that culturally-correct guy.

Ladies, there are actually no guys that can be feminized, but gender-variant guys are the next best thing.  There are always a large number of men dating who are secretly crossdressers.  Frequency of dressing can vary, but for most this is a hobby.  Many make excellent husbands, but there are always a few who do not.  Since this kind of expression has so much secrecy, there is always the danger that some crossdressers will never share their passion with their wives.

Some crossdressers like clothing games, while others do not.  Some like to play clothing games during sex, but more straight guys do this than gender-variant guys.  Some might like dressing as maids or wearing sissy clothes briefly.  However, the push today is focused on authenticity and skills.  There are even businesses that specialize in teaching men how to dress as women.  Husbands also can’t be trapped into staying at home; they have to go to work to pay the bills.

Some of us graduate from crossdressing to being transgender.  This means that that there will be a strong identity component, which can lead to wanting to dress as a woman as much as full-time.  There are a lot of husbands like this too.  It’s amazing how many men have changed their gender at work and in all their other life activities.  Do you know how much work this takes, and how many social skills a transgender husband must acquire? 

For transgender husbands, the wives really have to keep communications open.  There is always a certain amount of obsessiveness involved with being gender-variant, so husbands can get carried away with fantasies of being “real” women.  This is where the most friction usually occurs.  I don’t have this problem, since I don’t get any feminizing surgeries.

Most fantasy ideas will never happen, but others do happen.  A crossdressing or transgender husband can be just like a girlfriend.  My late wife and I were this way.  It is possible to have old-fashioned girlfriend meet-ups, where everyone wears evening gowns and heels.  Girl’s-nights-out are also easy.

Some husbands do become the executive assistant for their business-owning wife.  While standard men might balk at working for their wife, a transgender husband might enjoy wearing fancy skirt-suits and heels, while carrying out their wife’s instructions.  There is a word of warning here: this could require facial feminization surgery and maybe even breast implants.  Wives should never allow their husbands to get any surgery below the waist.

Ladies, I don’t think any of you would want to date me if you are operating alone.  However, as group, you might be able ton start a new trend.  Maybe you could even start a dating site to meet those guys that would be more like girlfriends.  There are already thousands of couples like this, but they don’t have a social network, so they are invisible.

I have a keen eye, so I easily spot people that might be gender-variant.  For couples, the husband will often be taller and wearing a skirt, while the wife just wears slacks.  The latest cosmetic surgeries for transsexuals make them almost perfect-looking women, except that the various facial-feminizing surgeons tend to make their clients all look alike.


annettexx annettexx 66-70 17 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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Just go for what you want

add me sweetie. I like your ideas

A good guide for women wanting to get their husbands started on becoming feminine is available here. Just hand it to them and tell them they have to do it. Soon, they will be into the role.

Wow that was a beautiful explanation.

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If you suddenly become famous or notorious known to media and if your inner life is exposed what ridiculous levels you have to face the social media and the people...Did you ever think about it...Our Media is full of sensations and our people are full of gossips ..I don't understand how are you able to continue in this way without thinking about public hatred towards gays, lesbians and cd.Kindly think about it

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I have spent my entire life wishing my wife would take control and insist that I dress feminine for her pleasure. If it were socially acceptable for men to wear dresses or skirts in public, she could throw out every last item of male clothing I have and I would not utter one word of protest. In fact, I would help pour some petrol on them and set them ablaze, never to be seen or worn by me again.

I love wearing dresses, skirts with pretty blouses, pretty undergarments such as panties, bra's, and slips. I also enjoy wearing pretty nightgowns and peignoir sets.

I would also hope that she might also insist that I spend a fair amount of time in diapers too. When diapered, I would expect her to put the bathroom off limits to me and require that I use my diapers for their intended purpose. Diaper-time would not only be used for punishment, but also be used to remind me that even though I wear clothing that was once considered feminine that I am not nor will ever be her equal. When diapered she would frequently remind me that my diapered state is proof that I am nothing more than a baby when compared to her.

my wife in control and has me in panites spanks me punishment an has me in chastity but no night gowns or things like that
im submissive husband

she should go farther sweetie

omg how much more are you thinking that is bad eonugh

have you grow **** and hips sweetie

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Hey, I I agree with most of what you say. And if the person is meek, shy or has been brought up around all female with out any male bonding they are more suited to become sissy's.

I share a home with a sissified ex-hubby now, he likes to wear dresses with those 50's petticoats everyday. He's looks so ridiculous and weird prancing about knocking things over with his dresses. But get this, he actually enjoys acting like a girly girl and tells me he loves it all.
My BFF and I have tried many ways to humiliate him for dressing that way. we even exposed him in front of all his friends and the public, b/c we were mad at him onetime, but he just laughs right along with everyone and ask for us to do more.

Well what this has to do with this is he wouldn't have been like he is if his sister and ,yes mother wouldn't have dressed him as a girl when he was 5. From what I understand is his mom didnt want to deal with having a boy in the family. She told him girls are better behaved than boys.

Thank you so much for your reply. It is uplifting to see that there are women who can understand that there are males who really need to be treated feminine when it comes to the roles they play and how they dress. You seem to have a very good understanding of what is happening. It's strange, I guess, but I love wearing the dresses from the 50's also. The dresses that flair out around you with pretty petticoats beneath them. I love dressing how the women dressed in the 50's. They really knew how to dress pretty.They make me feel so good.

You didn't make any comments concerning diapers. It seems that so many males that enjoy dressing feminine also seem to harbor desires to be treated like babies and enjoy wearing diapers, or being forced to wear them. I would love to hear your thoughts concerning that.

I am curious...Did it feel strange to see your husband in a dress at first? Now that some time has past (years possibly?) does it seem more normal to see him in a dress. I know for me when I first saw pictures of men wearing dresses on the internet, it seemed strange, but now I'm really beginning to like how men look in dresses. I really like the idea of a world where women wear the pants and men wear the dresses. When I was a young boy men made fun of women that wore pants. They teased them, made fun of them, accused them of wanting to be men. Women endured the harrassment and ultimately won the right to wear pants. Today women rarely wear skirts or dresses except when dressing for special events. Women no longer dress to please men. When women wear skirts or dresses they are usually doing so for other women. I am tired of being dressed like the women (pants). I want to look different. What must I wear to be different? A whiskey barrel possibly? If women are not going to dress pretty, then why deny me the right to do so? I would love the freedom to wear all the pretty clothes that women are tossing to the gargage pile of history. I would love to wear clothing that makes me feel good about myself. Dresses, skirts, feminine blouses & tops, pretty undergarments such as panties, slips, yes even a bra (for concealment of my male breast), pretty nightgowns & coat. I absolutely feel wonderful when I put on a pretty dress along with pretty undergarments. I love the way a dress feels against my skin. I love feeling the wind toss the hem of my skirt around in the breeze. I love feeling the breeze on my legs. I love how a skirt or dress covers me when I sit down. It feels so good. I cannot understand why women no longer want to wear such clothing. I would love to enjoy foreplay wearing a dress or skirt. I think the feeling of a woman's hands slipping beneath the hem of my skirt, rubbing and exploring my nylon covered legs as she slowly slips her hand up my leg, exploring me, as she continues towards her ultimate goal of my manhood concealed beneath a pretty pair of silky panties. I would love for her to tell me she thinks I'm pretty. I want her to take control and slowly undress me and finally taking me. I want her to enjoy looking at me when I'm wearing my pretty nightgowns. I want to feel her hands touching and rubbing the silky fabric of my nightgown as we lay in bed with each other. I want to lay there, looking into each other's eyes, knowing that she loves seeing me dressed in dresses, skirts, etc. I want her to be strong and intelligent. I love a strong and intelligent woman. I want her to take control. I want to be pretty for for. I want to do everything I can to support her by freeing her of taking care of all the domestic duties and chores. I want to be her wife.

I might be able to convince her of the advantages sweetie

I am a young obedient guy. I want to be a very good slave of a very dominant mistress woman. I will serve her and obey always. Kindly let me know if you are seriously interested. I ssure best from my side. Thanks and Regards... :)

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I would love to meet you or any woman that would like to feminize me completely. I am 43 year old and have yet to meet a woman like yourself. If I could find someone that would be willing to let me experience the joys of feminization I would be willing to go as far as she would like and even live as a woman completely and go through whatever surgeries she wanted me to.

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well I don't know I've been wanting to be a female sex slave since I was 12 yrs old know im 49 I went and had my prostate lizard but be for we did that I might as well beg him to castrate me but he wouldn't. I pierced my own nipple's and done went to concealing and fixing to go again this time with mom and both sister's I've been thinking real hard to let it all wife is ok with it but doesn't engage with it,not because she don't want to but her health won't let her. But AL means any body in the boot heel of mo wanting a sissy sex slave to do as they wish let's hook up. I only have maybe 4in hard and not circumcised so only thing im good for is pleasing others the true meaning of a sissy, I see a lot of these trans and they are wasting good meat. but me i'll be submissive to all that's my place

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well I don't know I've been wanting to be a female sex slave since I was 12 yrs old know im 49 I went and had my prostate lizard but be for we did that I might as well beg him to castrate me but he wouldn't. I pierced my own nipple's and done went to concealing and fixing to go again this time with mom and both sister's I've been thinking real hard to let it all wife is ok with it but doesn't engage with it,not because she don't want to but her health won't let her. But AL means any body in the boot heel of mo wanting a sissy sex slave to do as they wish let's hook up. I only have maybe 4in hard and not circumcised so only thing im good for is pleasing others the true meaning of a sissy, I see a lot of these trans and they are wasting good meat. but me i'll be submissive to all that's my place

As a married man with an over achiever of a wife, I find myself in a subordinate position in my marriage. My wife make most of the decisions and now that the children are grown and on their own, she has become defiantly clear that she goes and come as she please. And as far as sex is concern, our needs are just that. Our own needs to be met on our own. She does give me the benefit of an occasional encounter, I guess just to keep me hanging on.

So, I try to be her best friend, with hopes of not losing her completely, but I do not consider myself feminized, but I might be what you call gender- variant becausee I lust for her in my moments of solo sex.

Maybe I could chat with her and give her some ideas?

How would you connect with her and how would you initiate such a conversation?

message me and I will give you a email she can use

I* can't do that. I cannot be a part of it. It has to be done void of me.

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Feminizing is all good, but down the road the questions always leads up to do you want to change genders. b/c what are you really wanting to do all this for. Being feminine also includes pleasuring men too.

If I found a woman that would help me change genders I would do anything that would please her and if she wanted me to please men to I would in a second.

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Jenny, married sissymen often want to be cuckolded and part of it is allowing the bull to have them orally and anally. If it makes them happy let them all enjoy it

Personally, I do not believe it is necessary for a feminized man to be forced to have sex with a another man in order to complete his becoming a genuine sissy. You can be a genuine 100% sissy, without breaking the bonds of having a complete and totally monogamous relationship with your wife. For me, anything else cheapens it.

I understand that there are most certainly many ideas of what being a "complete sissy" implies. No two people are going to agree completely as to what it means. I just wanted to share my idea of what it means.

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lol wdf?

As someone else who feels in between and lives some part of that, I thought this was a very well considered blog.

Hmmm, yes, I think you are right. There might be a lower level of hormones in this man or a different mix of genes. He loves hetro sex but adores the female form in more than one way. He can't possess her so he becomes her at times to calm himself.
It sounds like it could be lonely sometimes.

Good response!

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