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I Feel Sad And Lonely

I'm 20 years old. I feel like I should be having the best time of my life right now, but I'm not. I feel so lonely and worthless. Nobody wants to hang out with me. I always call people and everyone is "busy". I don't even know why this is happening to me Why me? Weekends are horrible for me. While everyone goes out to the movies, dancing, eating at restaurants, I just stay home and feel sad. I'm tired of people rejecting me. I know people don't hate me but I guess I was meant to be alone :(
I feel dead even though I'm alive
sadgirl20 sadgirl20 22-25, F 94 Responses Jun 2, 2010

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I feel the same. Though I'm sure our feelings aren't the same. Not saying any feeling is the same, just different circumstances. Just was told my mom has late stage lung cancer. The alone feeling is numbing. Everyone wants to hang with me. Everyone is all of a suddent wanting to help... I still feel alone. The only thing that helps me is being Alone and finding ways to love myself. I know that's no help really. But I encourage it. Find yourself through hard times and It will get better.

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i totally understand your situation.. i am one of your kind. although i do have boyfriend, but never got anything that i deserve.

I know this was written many years ago I am just now reading your entry I am 32 years old and have been feeling the exact same way you are and never had the courage to reach out and say it I have felt this way through my 20 s and now in my 30 s

i can understand your situation.i do have the same problem.when i was at school i actualy have no friends.i had suffered the same problem of rejecting.everyone in the class will enjoy ,and i will sit at a corner and carry on reading books. in that situation i felt very sad .but as i grow up this situation is automaticly leaving from my life . and now everything is going to be fine ...dont worry the day is not very far when people stop rejecting u:) if u want help or someone to listen always here for u .. u just need to msg me...:)

Wow so sad I feel the same way

I lie in the same criteria. You are 20 I am 19.<br />
But I love my seclusion its very enjoyable dear you should also enjoy it :).

I feel the same way. I have problems with connecting to other people. I don't think they really dont like me, but I guess it's difficult for them to talk to me when I'm shy and sending depressive signals. I want to be happy and have the energy to hang out with people, but I don't.

Hi I completely no how U feel in going through the exact same thing I have become realy low and depressed :( and know one wants to hang around with me

i too feel the same way. i have 3 wonderful kids ages 9 mths, 3 and 6. i am with their daddy. we are high schoo sweethearts. even though i am not single i feel like a loner. all he literaly does is work n hang out with his friends. when he is home all he does is eat n sleep. i will be lucky to have time with him if tat at all maybe 2 hrs of his awake time every other day. he never takes me out. he never helps me with the kids. im constantly exhausted. i have no friends. all the women in my family sucks cuz for watever reasons them girls are always jealous of me cuz im a very hard working mother. i think everyone esp a stay at home mother needs time away away from the house but i dont have tat. i woukdnt anything for my kids. i love being a mom but so wish i had some adult social life too. life is so beautiful and so unfair. :(

i have 2 children and i'm in the same boat with you their father is always out of the house with friends or working or going to the gym or w/e he can do to make sure he's never here. and even when he is here he doesn't help me out with anything. i even told him i felt like i live in nanny servant. maybe if you live near me we can kinda fix it a little and have our kids play together just to have a break from doing the 24/7 mom gig

I so wish that too. Everyone needs somebody and people look at me like im a saint cause i have it all. No. No one understands just cause theres a perfect picture family going on, theres more to a happy relationship than just a roof over your head. I must be crazy to even think to have another child in the future. I have been a stay at home mom since my first born was two. Its now five years later. LOL. whats your email.? we can email eachother and talk bout our lives and share stories.

Go back and read ( streets 718 ) again.

Hey if u need someone to talk to just friend me

i doubt i can really be much help, but i'm sitting here in the middle of the night reading all these stories and comments by people, and i've been chatting back and forth and have come to realize that a lot of times people just need someone to talk to; to listen to them. i like to think that i am a true loving heart in this insane universe. these things that seem so important right now, your friends and what they'll come to see that you are giving that way too much power. if you look deep inside yourself, at what you truly are, i think you will come to see that your own perception is the most accurate truth. most other people will tell you to just listen to them, but i say to you "listen to your own heart, for therein lies the truth". everyone goes through the same doubts and fears that you are now experiencing. it sounds stupid, but i can tell you from hard, bitter experience that listening to those who should know better will only lead you down the same foolish road that they took. you are smarter than that, you are bigger than that, and if you open yourself to divine guidance from within, you don't need anyone else to figure things out for you;you will come to see a deeper truth than they may ever know. believe in yourself. whether you know it or not, this is creation and every decision you make determines what happens in the universe. this is not religion, it's physics. do the best you can, sister, the entire universe is depending on it.

no one is meant to be alone. My friends are the same way, and I feel like I am the only one who really cares about being there for people. All I can tell you is that you are a beautiful person and that there is no purpose in life but what you make for yourself. I am here for you if you want to talk :)

I think that Suky58's advice is very good. I too spend all my days and weekends alone. I have gotten so used to it that it doesn't hurt as much. I think I need to try and volunteer for something or join a club. I have anxiety and social issues and it's not so easy. Good luck though babe, I bet you're a great girl.

You are 2 years older than me, and you describe so much that I feel, thank you for sharing. This is the first thing I have read on this site and I am feeling like I could be understood.. You made my night. Thank you so much...

i have the same age as you, and im leaving almost the same thing :x i don't have a lot people to hang out, buy it hurt anyways .. im pratically the second choice everysingle time.. and when i go out, i feel like im just being there, nothing else!
every night i think about that and i end up crying xx

go out meet new people! enjoy life!

those same people who r to busy for u r the same people that dont matter if u dont matter to them then they shouldnt matter to u. when u call these friends do u talk about depressing stuff alot? maybe u shouldnt do that if u do. and being someone that has a lot of friends the one thing i find the most annoying is when my friends call me constantly and talk about nothing but sad things. now i would never tell my friends i dont care actually i do care. i let them rant and all but u got to remember that in life u r born alone and u will die alone and if u dont have fun hanging out with urself how can anyone else enjoy u. i hope for u to find peace and happiness with in urself and i assure u u will be so happy that ur friends will notice and u wont have to worry about spending all ur days alone... also u might want to try finding new friends... ones who do understand and love u

I also feel the same. When I see back I see myself standing lonely. I cry daily. I don't know what to do and what not to do.

Me too, It's tiring and absolutely draining. I know the daily crying as well.

I know what you mean.. 20 years old and i already feel dead.. just waiting to get pregnant.. it be nice to have people who won't try to use you.. or a family who doesn't think you owe them everything.. cause their so ******* selfish..

u r not meant to be alone, cheer up, someone in this world is waiting for u,

I feel disconnected from people too. When I meet new people I have a hard time interacting with them because I don't know them and feel they may think of me as a burden to be around because I am socially awkward. It's even worse when I go on Facebook because I see how happy everyone else is. I'm only 16, so maybe its just teen angst I don't know for sure.

I feel the same about Facebook. It reminds me of how awful my life is. Just leave it, and don't sign in, you will be very glad of this decision. I stopped using it for 2 days, and I'm much happier. If I sign-in again, I will become angry and depressed again.

I have friends and usually I'm not alone, but I don't feel like I have a deep emotional connection with them. That really frustrates me because sometimes in my head I just feel like I'm going crazy, but I feel like I have to just smile and pretend to be ok. I'm not sure if I'm really depressed or just sad. I think I have social anxiety or something, because when I'm in a big group and someone suggests that we go do something, I immediately think that I'm probably not invited because no one really likes me. Which logically I know is not true, but those feelings persist in a lot of areas in my life. Especially on the romance front, I'm 21 but I've never had a boyfriend because when I go to bars, parties, or when I'm just hanging out with boys in general, I feel like no one would like me if I talked to them. So I don't talk. And when someone talks to me I just get so hung up on not seeming weird. it sucks to feel alone

I am also 20 and I am in the same situation as you. Some changes in my life (move outs etc) brought me in this situation. I had friends which left to study many KMs away, so I basically left myself. I study something this period, but I couldn't manage to find friends there. If I am lucky, I may chat with some classmates, but that's it, after I leave the class I am alone. I feel sad sometimes about my situation, and sometimes not. Maybe it is that I'd rather be alone, than having fake and stupid friends (which I had in the past). I found some enjoyable activites to do, in order to stop feeling like a dead walker and this is what works for me and gives me hope for the future. If you want to talk with me and share thoughts, you could send me a PM.

look, probably people with your age is way less mature than you and that´s why they are always busy doing things with people who shares their shallowness. My advice to you is: try to meet older people who appreciates your identity.loneliness is solved finding kindred spirits.i lived in london for 3 years with my ex girlfriend.she left me although she kept living in the same house as me.i never felt more lonely.there is so many people lonely just because they are not looking in the right place.join a gym, you will meet dozens of people while you get fit.that will attract the opposite sex as well.believe me, gyms are the best place to meet people.try it and you will see i am right

I really feel bad this evening that made me decide to search over the internet assuming that there will be answers to my questions. oftentimes, i ask myself whats wrong with me that most of my friends talk behind my back knowing that im not doing anything bad against them. i always try to be nice but why do i always feel alone and sad at the end of the daY? reading your posts made me realize that i have so much more way to go. i dont have to hate and blame myself just because people can't accept me. i know i have to love myself and trust God instead. we are on the same boat. i find this sharing perse very helpful. i may not have friends in person, but i know that someone like you is willing to listen.. thanks.

Yeah im lonley b.f is my only and best friend its hard cuz i had to cutt friendz off tht i thought were friends but werent they jus hung with me if they needed sumthing but enjoy life go for walks meet ppl online thiers alot of great guys jus gotta find tht rite one but if u wanna true friend im here ;)

& being alone is a GREAT thing! ..u dont have to share ANYTHING wth ANYONE!

Good Lord. Is that the best you can come up with? Most of these people are crying out for advice. Not silliness.

How is expressing how I feel.... SILLY?... MOUSY

Obviously you must get the last word in this ongoing year long battle of comments! Here, let me help you. Expressing how you feel isnt wrong.... Now, coming onto a forum specifically for people who don't feel great about how their lives are going and want to talk about it or vent... and then TELLING them how to feel, IS wrong. Its like making fun of someone for having an injury and telling them to cheer up, and that it could be worse. You are not helping, sure it could be worse, but that person is dealing with some pain. I cannot believe you think it is acceptable to come trolling here. So I will say it again. Get. Out.

:) Ahhh...nice and refreshing. Thanks TheRQCKSTARZHquSeNHDZQ3, I feel MUCH better after having yelled at a jerk like you.

Well, look at th BRIGHT side, at least ur not HANDICAP or disabled, ..& NO! ..loneliness is NOT th same thing!

What if you are handicapped and have cyclothymia? Get. Out.

I really hope that I can say something useful here:<br />
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I used to feel sad and lonely a lot, I spent a lot (a lot) of nights crying myself to sleep from a pretty young age mostly due to family troubles which lead to troubles with my friends. <br />
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One thing that really helped me was changing my outlook to be more positive towards life. For me I read a couple of books (the names of which escape me, sorry!) and I watched the DVD of 'The Secret' (many believe it's rubbish but honestly all you need to learn from that DVD is to take charge of your thoughts and make them positive!).<br />
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So basically once I started being a more positive person it just attracted people to being around me. I got really good at it and it was great! More positive thoughts = more positive actions = even more positive thoughts and so on.<br />
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Obviously this is only part of the solution as you will need to go out and actually meet people, but with social media being the way it is these days you will just have to put yourself out there and strike up convorsations (Australia spelling), just don't get too comfortable - you have to push your comfort zone and go out with people in person. Invite someone out to the movies or something.<br />
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Anyway I read through all of these responses and you all sound like beautiful loving people, I wish there was more that I could do to help...