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A Crap Life

Everyday i hate waking up i dread it. same old crap going through the motions smiling even if i dont want to i have a family but feel i am taken for granted eveyday i still feel as if i live alone at the moment i am even having trouble feeling happy about anything and considered many times suicide. I am on medication everyday but seems to not work i feel i exsist not living. I know i could not take my own life and put my son through that ever as my mum threatened and took pills on many occasions which sticks in my mind alot from my childhood. I hate my mum because of that i dont want him to feel as crap as i did when i was young. I do cry on many occasions on my own and i think is this is as good as life gets for me. I was when younger physically and mentally abused by my mum which has knocked my confidence throughout my life. I feel very very abnormal compared to other people i see paople smiling enjoying life and i feel that i hate living. Prehaps i should book myself into a mental hospital now ready for later on???
mamdo2 mamdo2 36-40, F 43 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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Mamdo, there's some good posts and advice left for your benefit. i'd like to add that you need to start by changing your thinking. you are running into a brick wall every day my friend. its time to turn around and run into the other direction. by that i am suggesting to you to make small changes every day to change your energy and vibrate change and positivity into your life, house, family, work, relationships. do a good over all "emotional detox".

Could be (only a qualified professional ca diagnose) you've inherited a depressive condition. And it is exacerbated by your childhood traumas. Your meds don't seem to be working so suspect the prescribing physician is not well trained in the area of mental health.
You do not have to feel the way you do. It is treatable. But you have to do the homework to find a competent psychiatrist or psychologist and follow their instruction, including medicine and counseling therapy.

I would like to share my point of view on this. I am sort of uniquely qualified for this for two separate reasons.

Reason 1; my mother battled depression for as long as I can remember and it eventually got the best of her, she killed herself when I was 12. She said she was waiting until I was old enough, but I do not believe that I was old enough for that. Losing your mother leaves a void that can never be filled. Some people never properly cope with it. The hardest part for me was blaming myself for her suicide. I was convinced that if I knew the depth of her suffering, maybe I could have saved her. I realize now, that it was never possible. If you won't stay alive for the sake of your own children, then nothing is powerful enough to keep you alive. I just wish I got to know her as a person. I have memories, instances, but no idea who my mother was when no one else was looking. Thus it would be much kinder to not put your children through that.

Reason 2; I have been battling depression on my own for most of my life. Every night I would beg not to awake, and every morning I would awaken, disappointed that I have to face another day. My mother's suicide played a large role in my decent into depression. It wasn't the only trigger though. I just kept believing that my mother had the right idea, that death must be easier than living like this. Approximately one year after my mother's death I attempted my first out of many failed suicide attempts. I suddenly became very ill, I had given up on life and my body was failing for reasons none of the doctors could explain. It was only after I overcame my depression, less than a year ago, that I started regaining my health. So I understand both sides of the coin. I understand how unbearable the emptiness can get, and I have also felt the pain caused by the suicide of a mother.

I cannot judge you, your choices are your own and you will do what you feel you must. I am not advocating either choice, there is no right or wrong choice in my opinion. I just though I should share my perspective on the matter, so that you may reap benefit from knowing the outcomes that lay ahead, regardless of your choice. I find myself increasingly thankful that I did not die when all I wanted was death. Yes, it may have prolonged my suffering, but out of it I learned that it doesn't have to be like this forever. I realized that there is life outside of pain. Now all those years that once tormented me have come to an end, and its all just a bitter memory. I beat depression and live a happy life now, and all the pain I endured on my path was worth it. Life is more amazing than I ever gave it credit for, and I believe that you can beat this depression too. If not for yourself, then for your son. What doesn't destroy you only makes you stronger and I believe that your story can have a happier ending than mine.

Look for reasons to be amazed, one could be your child. Be glad that you are not doing to him what your mother did to you.

i can relate to your feelings i still suffer to day for the mental and the physically abuse i sufferd at my mums hands

We will always wake up and think we're going through the same motions each and everyday. Due to if we go to School and or work and don't enjoy it. It could have to do with the people around us also. It is a good thing you recognize who you would hurt someone else in the family if you did take your life. I just went through a big depression yesterday and made a very bad decision. I would get a therapist or someone to talk to. I think I may need the same now. :l Get some help. And don't think you're crazy for it. It happens a lot to people. =
God bless you.

†Alexandra

you can always check yourself in at a hospital. Your meds are not working and you need talk therapy with a great counselor along with meds to control your depression.

Ok I know I am very young but I want to help you. I was depressed for a long amount off time, I didn't eat sleep or do anything I just sat in my room wanting to be alone and left in the dark, because I thought no one like me , but now I have someone that really cares about me, I want to know more about you so I can help you. Now how old is your son

A sanatorium aka sanitarium can do a lot of good. Was a very good concept introduced those days like a resort, where people take off from family life and cleanse themselves spiritually.. But the modern medicine has just ruined our life.. and we take treatment only for physical ailments .. but keep ignoring the spirit, which never gets healed.

Hi, i will be very honest, i want people to be happy when i am happy, and when i am sad and lonely, i envy people who are happy and jolly.I think thats human tendency.I dont think mental hospital is the option for you, if you wake up everyday thinking that life is a challenge, u wont enjoy the day, just wake up thinking that future is uncertain,hope for a good one, take care

Mornings are the worst, staring at another day of meaningless nothingness. Are you only on meds or doing therapy too? I don't believe in meds without therapy.

just med :(

I don't know much about the States, but it seems you guys get meds prescribed pretty easily, but have a harder time getting therapeutic help? In Sweden few people believe meds is the answer, not even the doctors. Meds are only an aid while in recovery, and recovery usually needs to happen slowly and agonizingly in therapy (and through self help/realization). Meds never really helped me, but years of therapy did.

I feel like crap all the time. I never experienced happiness in my life, I dont smile, I dont laugh, always head down, I dont feel anything funny, it's a life of sadness and I wonder "what the hell am I doing in this world?". Thinking about suicide all the time...

yes i think about it everyday its very hard :(

Hey don't be like that some day you will be happy , this is just a very short period in life, try going to church.

People like you deserve to win the lottery

yes i do :)

yeahhhh i think i should this week x

I am glad the thought of your son is giving you a reason to continue living.
My son is the onlyperson who keeps me on this earth.So donot give up. Continue
loving your son and keep on living for him. He is definitely worth living for. I do understand how you feel and what you are going through. Sometimes everything
seems too hard to cope with and then I think of my son and I manage to keep going.
Please donot give up hope. xxx

I feel the same way.

Have you anyone with whom you share your thoughts & emotions on a regular basis? A problem shared is a problem halved...

i relate very closely to some of that, add me if you want to chat some time as i cant add you. life is way too hard at times for alot of us, sending you big hugs xx

so sorry you feel this way.

Hey keep your head up, i know this feeling and its hard to walk away from it. But their is hope believe me when i say and i hope you feel better. Try different things until one that will bring joy but don't give up. All the best

God I know that feeling all too well. I wake up and think "Godamnit, I'm still here" almost everyday. I exist, I don't 'live', and I also have a young child. So, that means I also try an plaster on a fake smile an make do as best as I can. Meds don't work for me either and I've found that even though I hate being around people when I feel like ****, going out an interacting with friends helps far more than the drugs. I found a reason for waking up relatively happy in the last few months and actually laughing and smiling. So there's hope for you. There's always hope. I hope you find a reason too.

oh that is not good, so sorry to hear you are hurting so much. When your childhood is stolen you get to your 20s and you start paying the price for there sick crap. Wish i could take your pain away.. Dont give up..

Keep strong - focus on your child and remeber how you felt when your mum was driving your life! - You need to fake a smile - put on a brave face and find a way to stay positive. keep focused and good luck - I know you will find a way to conquer this!

OMG, I'm trying to contact you to cheer you up & all I get is a message that you don't accept communications from outside your circle. No wonder you're depressed! For goodness sake open-up 'mamdo2' & let someone like me teach you optimism & happiness! :-)

teza would you contact me?

Same problem, you too need to change your account settings if you want to be contacted. Sorry, did try. Tezza

I could write a whole 10 page essay as a reply to what you wrote. I feel (and get) every word you say. I know you may not be able to believe it, but there are good times ahead, it's just managing all the pain, loneliness and BS in the mean time.

Hang on in there. You'll be glad you did.

I hope that didn't sound like a pile of patronising poop.

P.S. I like to laugh too :o)

i hope it gets better i dont want to be a misery :) i love laughing tomuch

Oh ,you weren't kidding there were you *hugs*

We all have times in our life when we wonder why we have to walk down this path, if you want to talk to someone I am here for you.
((((Hugs)))

aww thank you xx

anytime (((Hugs)))

your on EP it's the same thing except you can have more fun here and get your desires satisfied,,lol

Iwent through the same thing as a kid its not your fault and you are not alone maybe getting some therapy may help i would not go into a mental hospital once you sign your self in you may not get out i would stay in the world get proper meds for your depression get out of the house you will meet ppl you see them at library,s shopping at dance clubs i use meds for ocd anxiety adhd and depression i am doing good right now don,t ever give up there is a n answer GOD will show you the way good luck stay in contact i care , vinny

I'm so sorry that you feel this way mamdo. As an alcoholic and drug addict, I spent most of my life in some degree of depression. $ years ago I tried Interferon treatment to cure my liver but it failed and I lost 35 pounds in 3 weeks and fell into a BLACK depression which lasted for close to a year. So many nights spent smoking cigarettes on the front porch, feeling that I would be better off dead. Like you, I would never act on those feelings because I have children and grandchildren. I came to a few realizations that helped me crawl out of the pit, slowly. Even with the breakup of my 40 year marriage last January, I have been able to move forward with my life. I recently stopped taking both the sleeping pills and the anti-depressants that I had been using for the past 4 years. I am clean, sober and in recovery now, and though life is not always happy, I can deal with it. There is hope, mamdo...

I can relate, both my parents were very overbearing and critical. I don't think they really know the damage it caused.

You must forgive if you want healing as we must ask God to forgive us when we ask Him . First you must ask God to forgive yourself and ask Jesus Christ into your heart as Lord and Savior. And also ask Him to help yopu to forgive your mum, otherwise its going to eat you up inside and effect yopur kids . Find a christian church for help thats why they are there, suggestion a Calvery Chapel Church , you will not be disappointed. Not to forgive is not hurting her but you whether it was right or wrong what she done...trust me if you want healing, peace and joy.

Hey **** God ho31637, have you ever seen him? Have you ever talked to him and he's talked back to you.
God is a fxucken crutch for those who can't hack reality and need freaking babying going to church and worshipping the 'invisable man!'
If I worshipped something other than say God it would be labelled an illusion and I'd be locked up! Grow up and smell the flowers!!! This isn't going to help this gal in need, she'd do better than to have some fun with me because God is just a really sad notion!

Forget you past & try to be in present... Future is already decided by god.. All gonna fine..
trust me... Everything will be alright once you come out of past .. I think you don't listen to what i've chat with you on your comment post ... sex is not the only last resort... It's again a kinda food which a human needs when hungry.. But than there're many things to be known, to share with the one you REALLY feel comfortable.. According to me Strabgers are more lovable than the known relatives... Have faith ... I think still you are cooking Yahooo & its undone... Anyways, anytime ... Am opn, frank, bold, open minded, share/exchange thoughts & ideas & experinces... Yoga which keeps me relaxed from day to day stress & strains.. Am into it for last 17 Yrs .. Am Instructor having 48 students of which 28 are females .. But neva seen them with a sex eye... Thou they do appreciate me & my physique.. take care.. keep smiling.. Love a lot... hugs2Uxxx

do you see me with your sex eye lol xx :)

No ... And, but YES i love your EYE, don't know about yur sex..LoL
fun enjoy life... it takes matter of seconds to create one for you & throw yourself in my love basket.. I do take care of flower... No boast .. LoL xx

i love you love basket xx

Love U2 mamdo ... Jus' Do It ... Nowwwwwww ... pleaseeeeee...
can't wait...xx

Oh of course but I see a like-minded tortured soul, make me a friend and we can talk about more important matters.

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Mamdo2 , thetre is help you can feel happy, joyful ...first of all you must forgive and not live in the past. This will take some time not alot so dont give up. The menntal hospital is not your answer thats for people who give up. Some medications can make it worse for you. I will help you and get you the best help for you ...in the meantime keep on hoping for there will be a day you will look back and be glad I promise this.....I'll get back with you shortly love John

Great idea! Run away for a bit of a break from the real world, the grind, and come visit my hill in the mountains! Take long walk listening to the wind whisper its calm message of peace to your heart and quiet stillness to your thoughts.
Then when your more open to laughter, I"ll share a wee bit of my brain baggage and we'll both have a hoot at how life takes so many of us to these rough places we find ourselves in.
Be good to YOU... It matters

Start every day with a smile anyway, and do something that can improve your situation and your mood. Talk to people, have fun, and always smile.
And take the ownership of your own life.

yes i do smile alot :) xx

That's a very good start :)

yes it is x

<p>i understand 2 years since had a relationship almost 3 actually, i have epliptic seziures, manic depression, idd, no friends on medication for seziures yet still have some and med side effect are not fun either i have no kids countless times i have voices saying to kill my roommate and couple others but i know better so go head and compare ur life to mine yes im thinking of going to an mental institute maybe</p>

Your story is very similar to mine. I was also abused by my mother and have a family yet feel really lonely. I did check myself in for a 72 hour evaluation and it was a great thing to do, I learned so much. I would do it again in a heartbeat but they will not take me. Go onto chat now if you want to talk...Or PM me anytime...Keep your head up it does get better..I promise!

thanx :) x

a lotof us feel like this lifes strange

"A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl." i hope this helps

:) x

I feel like you too. Ur not alone

xx

Big hugs!* Do the best you can to change your way of thinking. It will help you escalate your positive thoughts slowly. As I like to keep this in mind, "If you think you can or think you can't, you're right." I got this quote from a known person. It basically means if you believe or have faith in yourself, your goals can be achieve. If you think the opposite of not believing or having faith in yourself, it will come true and you will never change. Anyways, I agree with Fazer, you have to try something new to embrace something in your inner soul. As long you're alive, there is always room for improvement. I know you're going through rough patches but don't give up! I may not been in your boots but I know what it's like to go through misery everyday. I've been to the lowest point of my life of being jobless, failing college twice, near death experience, and feeling that I have no support to talk to and figure out on my own. Try not to worry about your mom and the others happy life. Only focus worrying about yourself and your son. Take baby steps. I wish you the best of luck. :)

I think you may have to change your circumstances to feel happy again. Either that or embrace the circumstances as they are and mould them into something that works better for you. Either way I offer you my very best wishes and hope you are able to find the happiness you seek.

My sincere wishes for happiness for you young lady. It definitely can seem to be a absolute mountain to climb.Trust in yourself and you will make.

Words are easily spoken, I have faith in you.

Take care!