Now I Get It!!

So I have come to realize that relationships are not what I once thought they were. For years I sought out relationships to feel a whole and I finally learned I had to fill the whole myself. This lead to my being a loner for a couple of years. I wasn't lonely but I had finally found fulfillment within myself. I recently reached back to old relationships and even though most people are in a better place in their lives because they held on to those relationships, a lot of them are quite shallow and naive. But in my learning what relationships are, I try not to judge.

One aha moment that really sticks out in my mind is finally understanding that relationships take work. I used to think that teaming up with people would be detrimental to my success. People bring you down and you have to put in a lot of time to make relationships work. Now I realize that even though you spend more time on relationship building than success building when you are apart of a team or group, you will always be more successful. I feel like there is so much to be learned in just dealing with each other. I NEVER wanted to put in the effort to make a relationship work but part of my aha moment tells me that was for good reason. Even though times get rough and things are difficult, it's the brief moments of success, intimacy, excitement, happiness, etc. that keep you going through the continuous bad moments. It's when the brief moments become few and far between or the bad moments outweigh the memories, that the relationship is no longer salvageable. Would you believe my 3 year old taught me that? Luv ya baby.
AnonymousDiva AnonymousDiva
26-30, F
Jul 31, 2010