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We're Programmed This Way!

If you read up on evolution, one of the key themes is that females are in competition with one another.  Our female brains are programmed to desire the strongest, healthiest man who will father healthy babies to keep the human population existing. 

Since we're supposed to be competing, it's pretty hard to form a true friendship.  We could, however, form a bond if it helps us reach our goal of finding a hot mate.  In my opinion, that's why the prettiest girls in school will form "packs" and hang out together.  If there's a whole tribe of good-looking girls, the strong, athletic jocks are more likely to notice them.  The prettier girls will also exclude the less attractive girls, as they may repel their potential mates.  It's also inevitable that the pretty girls will backstab each other, and it will almost always involve fighting over guys.

We might just be animals doing what are brains have been programmed to do for centuries.

The good news is, it becomes easier for females to become friends later in life, when we already have mates and don't care to compete for any more. 


abercrombiegirl abercrombiegirl 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 22, 2009

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WeLive - that's exactly what they're doing! Their brains are just operating on their animal instincts. But I like to think some of us are more evolved, and don't have to follow the animal pattern. And sure, I'd love to be your female friend, but I can't get into your profile to add you.

That's an interesting way to look at it, and there is probably a lot of truth to what you say. However, I'm 52 and still have trouble making (or even wanting) female friends. I easily make friends with men and understand them much better than I do other females. Men either like you or they don't. If they don't, they'll most likely ignore you. If they do like you, they probably won't spend time figuring out how to stab you in the back. They tend to be more straight up, and I like that in a person.

Oh, wow. I never thought of it that way. :) Nice research. So, when the 'popular girls' in school hurt me I can just say their being animals? 0-o No, no, I understand fully what you're saying. THanks for posting this-- makes my life a whole lot clearer. (Want to be my female friend? XD)