I Found Out My Girlfriend Is Gay

I have been with my girlfriend for six years and earlier this year she came to me with her attraction to woman. She acknowledge that she had been attracted to women since she was younger, but now it was becoming more intense for her. I am understanding because I know it is not easy for her, but it is extremely difficult. You are with someone, who you just know is meant for you and for it all to change is mind blowing. I went through stages. First, I was just depressed, then angry, questioning myself as a man, and now I have acceptance. The anger still comes and goes. I am like damn did I waste 6 years of my life, and what is it that I do now. I have so much misplaced anger, but I can't directed at her because its not her fault. She would rather not have these feelings and stay together. I internalize it lot and it really eating me up inside. We are breaking up, but are still with each other right now of our financial situation. It is difficult, because I still do love her very much, and I know it will end soon. She says she loves me, but it took me awhile to realize that it was not the same kind of love I had. As she find out who she truly is, I realize we were not meant to be and my "in love" turns to just love. It is just really difficult when the one you love doesn't love you the same way back, but maybe this new beginning will be good and I will find someone who is like what I thought I had with relationship.

imyded imyded
2 Responses Sep 18, 2008

i know its almost a year later, but how are you doing now? this just happend to me two months ago out of a 3 year relationship. ive had way too many moments of weakness lately partly because we arent speaking to each other now. i miss her and i feel that this feeling is based on the absence of our friendship, but its so hard to tell.

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