Oops Husbands Feelings Hurt Again

Well, as a guy, I think fullthrottlebaby is hitting the nail right on the head. In almost the same breath of asking for a job to be done, you're denigrating what you think the quality of work is going to be. I can just see inside his head now... "if she thinks I'm going to do such a bad job, then why doesn't she do it herself!" Now having said that, he needs to work on his own maturity a little bit... being mad for 3 or 4 days is ridiculous. That's in tantrum territory. So... he needs to work on being childish, and you need to work on the passive-aggressive way you handle him. Easy, right? Hang in there... you've been together for a long time, which is commendable and shows that there's clearly love there somewhere. Just focus on that, and you'll be alright.

I don't think it's that they are taking a while to heal. I think it's that you aren't understanding it from their' point of veiw... and he stays mad, because you don't understand him, or why he's mad. Telling him to do it right is like saying that you expect that he is not going to do a good job. You are asking something from him, and at the same time you have told him, that it had better be good enough. He wants to please you. Instead of saying to "paint the room right" you might have said something like, "The room is going to look so nice! thank you for doing this sweety!." He will try then, harder, because he knows you are already pleased that he is doing something for you, and he wants to please you more. I don't know if you've read the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", but there's some seriously good information in there, I highly recommend it.

oh my gosh, that is like the same thing with my partner.we're not married yet but we've been living in together for almost 4 years now..and i totally know how u feel.my partner tells me that when he gets mad at me he doesnt get over it right away.i mean, some guys are like that.when they get mad, it doesn't go away that easy, and by getting back at you they would make u feel guilty.it's totally not your problem its his, its a guy thing.

anyway, wat i usually do if he does things that i don't like, for example if he trys to clean our room and im still not satisfied with the whole cleaning, i would just say like "oh wow thats wonderful you cleaned our room" since i know how he is if i say something about his cleaning.i would just try to clean it myself without him thinking anything wrong.im kind of used to it now and you should be too.just try to understand him.some guys are like that, when they get hurt, oh boy, it takes awhile to heal