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Looking for Love (and Sex)

Some of the women on here, I believe, have a different view of me and what I want.  Yes, I am looking for sex, because I've been deprived of it for two years by a wife who doesn't seem to care anymore.  No, that's not all I'm looking for.  The horny side of me is doing most of the talking right now, and I think people should be able to realise why.  Yes, if some woman came up to me and proposed having sex, I'd do it!  But I'm getting older, and I want more.  I guess I haven't been too forthcoming with some of these women about that, which is unfortunate.  I love younger women, and get along best with them.  I'm still 20 years old at heart in a lot of ways.  I want someone to go to the movies with, concerts (rock), walking in the woods, taking pictures, playing pool, having sex, cuddling, kissing, talking, flirting, and just having a good time.  Is that asking too much?  So, I'm going to have the ladies read this before we get serious.  I've gotten serious with two women on EP.  One turned me down and I haven't heard from the other in over a month.

IanMatthew IanMatthew 56-60, M 51 Responses Apr 25, 2010

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You don't have to be in your twenties to like those things......
You just haven't found the right person yet.


I can say that a relationship that goes more then 6 months without action is a dead end one. Im sorry SB but I stayed in a relationship 8 years too long and I am now paying for it in alamoney some 11 years later and will probably be doing so for another 6 years and I will be almost 63. I was awarded the 4 children to raise, she took 75% of the cash and now reaps a cool 30% of my income annually. This is a bunch of crap!, do not stay in a relationship that has no emotional rewards, making love is just one piece, if there is no flame, then other parts of the relationship break down too. Trust, Honor, and self-worth to name a few.

My kind of girl!

Ill give you sex Ian matthew haha jk you seem like a sweet guy and I get too attached too,I think its healthy to have emotional relationships:]

I sent you a friend request!

Talk to me :3

So, honey, talk to me, talk to me!

You might be happy to know that I've been divorced since August.

I'm not happy about that for the disharmony you've experienced, but I am pleased for you that you are now available to meet a great woman! I hope your life in singledom is short-lived!

I don't know you, but I do know men in your situation. I think the trick to finding the girl/woman you are looking for, is to stop being married to the one you have. I think of myself as a great "catch." I'm not looking for an affair or to be someone's mistress. I want a man to share all the things you wrote about, and then be able to go home with him at night. Being discreet in a relationship is like having sex with condoms: necessary for fooling around, but a waste when you are honest and truthful with your partner.

I understand what you're saying.

Hi IanMatthew,<br />
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Hang in there, you will find your happiness. Whether it is with your current wife or someone else. That choice will be up to you. You sound a lot like me. I am in a very unhappy marriage, basically I am just a nurse to my husband now. It sounds like we are missing pretty much the same things in our life. My marriage has been sexless for over 6 years now and it is tearing me apart. That is funny that you like rock music because I still do too and people think I am crazy, I can't help it. I am not sure you feel the same as I do, but I feel the main issue is being intimate. I so miss having my husband hold, hug, kiss and cuddle with me. The sex is an added bonus because it comes along with all the other things that are lacking in my life. I still love my husband but I am just not in love with him. Hope that makes sense. Keep your head up, you will find what you are looking for. Contact me if you ever need someone to talk to because I do feel your pain. I keep thinking someday I will find my answer that will lead to my happiness again.

This started a long time ago.

We females know things about you men that we live with.....We are intuitive and creatively investigative....<br />
Maybe your wife knows you like younger women, that's no way to get her to "warm up" to your sexual advances is it? <br />
I think she knows!

I think I sent you a friend request. Would love to hear from you.

I'm really trying. Haven't had any complaints from them yet!

Chuckle...all of those women that have trouble geting their husbands to have sex can just call me...LOL...damn happy to oblige em...ALL of em !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Go get 'em Ian..<br />
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I guess only another guy could really understand, though many of my female friends I think understand. I think it varies from woman to woman. Some women on here have trouble getting their husbands to have sex with them. Thanks for the advice.

Ian...<br />
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Saw your post while peeking at a new friends profile. From another guys perspective and from one who's about your age, I had a couple of thoughts. It has been mostly (completely) gals who have commented to you (well done, by the way) and they all seem a bit disbelieving that your wife could just up and decide she doesn't want sex anymore. IT HAPPENS !! It doesn't always have a medical doesn't always have a just happens! Here's a bit of PURE attention now cuz this is worth money in the bank.....are ya listening????? MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT !!!!! Guys ARE horngogs..pretty much no matter how we try to clean it up! We're suppossed to be!!!! Women function differently! They can have sexdrives every bit as powerful and out of control as any man..but generally just isn't the same. <br />
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I'm married....I have lovers/subs on the side..I am a very experienced partner...and I know that sometimes the mysteries of the universe just kick in !! Don't beat yourself up! If you choose to stay with your wife..respect her and be discreet..but don't deny yourself due to her difficulty. I think you'd do better on a egular "hook up" site..specifically one like ADULT friend can find people only interested in sex there. EP is a bit different...lots of posers and wannabes on here..<br />
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Good luck/hunting partner....<br />
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KK (Tim)

No clothes on?

Oh. We'll have to find out.

To learn what things?

There's a lot more to me than just sex. It's just that sex has been number 1 on my mind for a while now.

I've always known that about you Ian ... doesn't come as any surprise to me that there's more to you than just a horny devil ... good for you for sharing though ...


Sounds good to me.

Thank you, my dear.

That ship has sailed.

Wow, Ian, that really took a lot of Humility on your part to share from your Heart and to be very Vulnerable.....I can see why your frustrated, because..... for one I totally understand why Men desire sex more than women its because that's how God created you.... women on the other hand ( not all) sex to women is totally different ....tenderness, listening, being totally vulnerable to them, sharing your deepest thoughts and struggles and admitting your shortcomings.... actually turns women more than anything have you tried doing this with your wife...just being totally unashamed and Vulnerable to her..... finding our what her love language is and taping into it just might be worth your wild....there are 5 types of love languages and if your filling her tank with the wrong one she is empy like a gas tank in a car she wont GO!!! sorta speak encouragment to you change yourself and she will change we can't do anything about another person we can only change ourselves and create change in sound like an awesome Man that needs direction .....don't look for it else where you have all you need right in fornt of you TRUST ME!!

Thank you, honey.