There is a woman on here, I won't tell you who she is, but some of you know. Months ago she came on like gang busters to me, telling me about how she wanted to have sex with me, things like that. I live in the US, she lives overseas. She said she wanted to meet me, maybe even decide to live with me. That was then. Well over a month ago her son got into a boating accident and hit his head, He was in a coma, but then came out. We thought he was on the mend, but he died not long afterwards. Having three kids myself, I can imagine how devastated I'd be if something like that happened to one of my kids. She was very depressed, of course, not eating or drinking. I found this out from her sister, who told me and kept me a very little bit informed for a while. Right now, I haven't heard from her sister since April 23rd, and don't know if my friend is alive, dead, or what. She's younger than me, but I know she likes older men anyway. My question is: Am I being unreasonable in wanting to know from her what's going on with her life? I know you never ever get over something like this, but how long is long enough? Long enough to tell a friend you supposedly care about deeply what the hell is going on?