Is He Is Or Is He Ain't?So...I was up until 5am this moring helping a friend with an issue. She's been living with a guy for about a year now and she's 9 months pregnant. They haven't known each other very long and it's very obvious it's not L-O-V-E.
Anywho...she comes to me and says she wants my take on something. Not long ago her man told her that he used to work in a gay bar and had gotten head from "a guy". Of course she defends him and says she believes he's "straight"...BUT....
Now he has the gay friend that he met in a class he's taking and they've started haning out. So the first night he goes over to his friend's house for a "get together" with a few people he ends up getting really trashed and not getting home until 4am.
She thinks nothing of this because she trusts her fella. Well, she wasn't supposed to be home from work until midnight but she comes home around 10pm. By midnight he hasn't shown up and she starts calling trying to find him. By 2am she's called the hospitals, they guy's mom, everybody she can think of.
When he rolls in at 4am he sees how upset she is and tried to explain. He says that he "confessed" to his gay friend that he'd had oral sex with a man before...blah...blah...blah, and starts to cry. He never comes right out and says that he and his gay friend engaged in any kind of sexual activity BUT the crying part kind of gave it away.
Her question to me was did I think anything went on and if it did was it just a drunken thing or did I think it would continue. Well, being the honest guy I am, I had to tell here that he's struggling with his sexuality and sooner or later he's going to come out to her as gay. Not that there's anything wrong with that. heehee
She, of course, tries to defend him again and so I said "Look. There's one really good indicator that he's either gay or strongly bi." To which she asks "What would that be?" To whic I replied "HE WORKED IN A GAY BAR! Straight guys don't work in gay bars and get head from the customers! Bi guys and gay guys do. Straight guys don't."
So my answer to her question was/is: Yes. He had a tryst with his "gay friend" and yes, it will happen again if it's not already. She's not torn up about this because she herself is very bi, almost to the point of being a flat out lesbian. All she wants is to be sure so she knows where she stands.
There are many more details to this story that add credence to my assertion that he's gay; not just the fact that he worked in a gay bar and got head from some dude (he never said how many times which leads me to believe that it was an ongoing thing and possibly even a relationship...sort of...maybe).
So...is he is or is he ain't? I say yea. What say you?