Where Don't I Go Dressed-up

I really enjoy reading your stories. You're fortunate that your wife is supportive but you were also very wise and brave to tell her about yourself when you were young.



I wish everyone could read stories like yours. It would help other people understand how normal and like everyone else we are.



All the best.



Linda

You all have great stories, thanks for sharing!

My wife doesn't know what most of you know. I CD sometimes when the opportunity presents itself but only when I know its extremely safe. I see by some comments, even if the wife knows, it's still not perfect. Reason enough to be in the closet...for a while more.

I know that is one thing i don't have to worry about, her getting mad and changing her mind.I don't try to pass anymore. I do know what you're saying,though

i use to be married but just over 11 years ago she told me she way leaving me for some one else, i know it was partly due to my wearing girls clothes.

although i did not go out trying to pass as a woman i wore female clothes almost all of the time but i never went out in skirts or dresses i would wear girls pants and boot cut jeans etc.



on the odd time i was mistaken as a female she hated it but even though i tried stopping several times i always went back to dressing in girls clothes i think part of it was as she told me i looked better in some of them than she did we talked it over many times and agreed on what i was allowed to wear but even when i was only wearing what she had said was ok if people made comments then she would start an argument if i came back saying i was only wearing what she had said was ok it was still my fault.

in the end partly due to my working to much we started to drift apart then she came in one night and said she had something to tell me and said she was in love with a friend of ours and was going to leave me.

now we are still good friends i go round to there house when i am home and she cooks me Sunday dinner and she is happy with the way i dress she is always complementing me on what i have on.



i had told her before we started going out steady that i wore girls clothes and she said that it was not a problem i thought it was the only thing i could do i could not get into a serious relationship with some one and not tell them what i was, i told her the reason i think i am this way as i was dressed in girls clothes from birth until i started school and the school said i could not attend in the girls uniform from then on i wore boys clothes to school and girls when at home for a couple of years then it went to just boys until i was around 13 or 14 and i started to get skirts again. now i wear girls clothes all the timeout here in the Caribbean i wear skirts or dresses now and then and when home i wear girls pants with boots as it is much colder in England



there are not many women who do not mind there husband wearing girls clothes even when they say they don't mind they do in the end it may come down to a decision for you to make either your wife or girls clothes.



i wish you luck and remember always ask your wife if she is ok with what you are going to wear even if she has said it is ok one day she may change her mind when she see's you out in it and then see's other peoples reaction to them.

It's a fine line between our respect for our wives' preferences, and theirs for ours. Sometimes it seems rather unequal, because we're the odd ones out, not them. And I guess one way of staying normal when people like us are around, is by maintaining defences. Facing your husband looking and acting like a woman can be a very scary and unsettling thing, because welcoming the change in the man is also to welcome a change in their circumstances too. How do they tell the story of their man as a woman to their friends and family? We're pulling a rug of safety here, and it can seem unpredictable. The woman who is an accomplice to cross-dressing suddenly has to explain herself too; she has become the woman who married a cross dresser / tranny (poor thing).



When we and our wives both share a full appreciation that we are normal but in a different way, we can both be confident. Anything less and fear presides.

My wife is used to my dressing.I only fully dress acouple times aweek between Oct and May. Thats when i like dressing. I dress in girls clothes(not fully dressed)when we go places during the summer. My work clothes are women(tops,pants,shoes). My hair is almost to my waist. I keep my legs shaved and toenails painted. Wife and family will always come before my dressing.

You really are very lucky Cindy. I think a lot about my wife's say. I'm caught between hiding some things again and really freaking her out. And I can't judge the logic. If she came home and I was in skirt and blouse, or even a petticoat and cami, that would be OK. But add makeup and wig and I would be "too much a woman". Silky smooth tights and stockings, with a slip; or a really pretty long glam nightie? That's fine. But she would be very upset indeed if I shaved my legs!



She wants her man, I want to be her pretty husband; maybe in reality, her lesbian friend too.

JohnWiltshire thank-u.Its still fun going out. Pliadjumper start out dressing in as much as your wife is comfortable with. Talk with her and see how much she is willing to let you do and when you can. Then go from there. I think our wifes should have a say in our life style. I still ask mine if i can buy this or that. Hope your wife can accept your dressing . I hope this helps you out.

my mother dressed me as a girl from 7 - 12 years old and took me out every place i have not dressed like a girl it over 30 yrs but now my kids are out of the house me and my wife talk about starting to crossdress again do you have any advice for me