Happening Soon

My wife and I have been having issues connecting it felt like we were roommates for about 6mos.  Last week we went to Cancun with friends and I thought to reconnect.  We held hands once and she cried on my shoulder once.  We have been married 15yrs and last night something just told me to get up in the middle of the night and check her email. She was sleeping in a different room because her back hurt.

Sent: Oct 17, 2011 3:01 AM

Can you please call me tomorrow? Dial #67 and then my phone #, it will block your # from showing up. Will you please do that??  The only thing I have going on is counseling from 1p-2p.  Or even call me now. Please, will you??

Talk to you soon?
I really do love you XXXX!

Sent from my iPad- I just got her this for her birthday.
I caught her red handed and said she's been having an affair for 4mos.  I am completely devastated, I thought we would eventually work it out.  My parents had betrayed me in my teens and now the only other person I have ever cared about has done it to me.  I don't know if I'll ever recover.

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36-40, M
2 Responses Oct 17, 2011

I'm so sorry. Have you confronted her yet? What did she say? I know people who have worked their way back from a devastating betrayal like this through counseling, but it takes a lot of work on the part of both people. I can certainly understand if you can't though. I think my trust would be permanently broken. I'm so very sorry.

Well, there should be no doubt in your mind what you have to do.