Sting Of Humiliation

Slapping my face was my handler mother's favorite form of instilling her dominance over me. I was not allowed to talk back, so my face got frequently slapped to remove my dissenting look. At 40 years old I still shutter in fear, when I hear her voice on the answering machine.

Don't take offense but if you don't have kids you have no idea what it is to have a defiant 4 years old shouting at your face because you don't give them their juice or put on their show quickly enough. Having my daughter loving " Testing my limits" as you so well said is one of the things in the world that frustrates me the most. Having tried all kind of disciplines, I can't say that a stern yet controlled slap in the face is just a natural response. Moreover, I really don't get why children are allowed to disrespect their parents who must I clarify do everything from feeding, wiping butts, clothing, housing and entertaining their little ones whereas the parents don't have any rights anymore to rule their household and raise their kids the way they want.



Maybe there is a correlation between the huge disrespect that i sense in schools today and the fact that nowadays parents who raise their voices and oblige respect are finger pointed as child abusers. Most of our parents were spanked and their parents were spanked before them, both at home and at school. They survived and most of them are healthy/balanced beings and parents. I'm totally against child abuse but i'm equally against parent abuse lol.. And in many household nowadays, the kids rule. Sad, because they don't yet know what's good for them. They need to be told that gum for breakfast is bad for them and they need discipline when they throw a tantrum, hit you and shout a your face for telling them so. I understood many things by becoming a mom. One of them is to not jugde the other parents. Being a parent if a tough task and to me you have to be one to fully appreciate that.



Thanks for your post, The best thing I can wish you if to have a defiant kid like you were to your mom. Only then you will fully understand that your mom is merely a human being will limits and area of difficulty just like you and everybody. Having a defiant child is the biggest challenge I have had to face in my whole life.



God bless

My mom would cusp my face tightly and yell at me. She would do this both at home and in public. She had long nails and they would dig into my cheeks and it hurt. It was an intense experience but it made me pay attention to whatever she was angry about.

it was common practice to ring the bell of a small child, slapping the across the face. Studies shor that "the slap" to a cild was like Mike Tyson's punch to an adult. The safest place to hit a child is on the bare ***. It stings more, you can do it over and over, not risk injury. Society has got to smarten up, I won't take a job if I cannot spank the children!

Times are so different now then when we grew up. My mom use to always buy us paddle balls. The paddles had an elastic attached to the paddle and a rubber ball. They were fun to play with but they would always break and she would sometimes use that to spank me or my 2 brothers *****. We totally deserved it. We did finally smarten up and refused the toys when she asked if we wanted them. I was never slapped in the face but I did eat some soap, yuck..