Are My Kids Too Young To Spank Yet?

My wife says our twins, a boy and a girl, almost three are too young to spank. I will smack their hands and say no or give them one swat on the butt.

Am I wrong and are they too young?
AlexGuy AlexGuy
26-30, M
7 Responses Jul 15, 2011

My children are 3 and 4 and I usually do the same thing which is pop their hand or butt once or twice. They usually get the message. I dont think that you did anything wrong

What I meant by "spank" was a one opened hand swat on the butt (clothed) or a smack on the hand. I didn't mean an out right spanking at their age. But even with a smack on the hand, my wife is all over me about it saying they are too young.

Me and my siblings got single slap on the bottom around the age of 2. And we didn't get the belt until 8. So I think your doing the right thing.

For formal spankings age 3 to 4 is about the time to start, although swats on the bottom should have started aroung 18 months to 2 years old.

I would say its a bit young yet,i started spanking my kids when they were around 4ish.Although i was 3 when my parents started spanking me.

I would agree with her. Mine started at 7.

It depends on what you mean by 'spanking'.I spank my boys over my knee on their bare bottoms & i started doing that when they were 4.Before that they got a couple of swats on the butt & their hands slapped.