And I'm Grateful

Sounds like you were well raised with the necessary love, care and concern. :)

well said i was spanked severely as a child but i have 4 kids of my own i did spank them but no where near as bad as i was

First,I see the difference between spanking and abuse but your view on discipline is really strange: you seem to think people who don't use spanking as a form of discipline are inevitably too permissive parents.My mother is a professional nanny since 27 years and she has raised 42 children (not to mention my siblings). During those years, she has NEVER used physical punishment: Yet all these children are well educated and now, are well-balanced and respectful adults.And believe me, we were not spoiled children: my mother had millions ways to discipline us without using spanking.Off course, spanking puts a stop to a bad behavior but it doesn't encourage a child to understand the reasons why what he was doing was wrong. It's also a model of agressive behavior. Even though the child is being hit in the context of being disciplined,by hitting your child, you are demonstrating that action is acceptable, that it's OK to hit someone when you are angry.Discipline is a learning opportunity: after being spanking, the child focuses on the punishment, rather than what they are being punished for. So, there are no lessons learned.I don't think spanking will damage mentally the kids but I just think it's a useless and pointless punishment.

Totally agree!

There's no hitting of any sort in our family. I have 6 nieces and nephews and they're such well adjusted and compassionate little human beings I can't imagine using violence of any sort against them. If non-spanked kids are bratty, look to the parents. Monkey see, monkey do.

Nope.. but spanking is also a popular sexual act for a reason and I think our kid's are the last people we should subject to shameful humiliation. Leave that to the grown ups that can make the decision to have someone smack at one of their most private of areas.

How were you spanked ?

I respect the fact that you think spanking is a good form of discipline, but if I ever have kids I promise you I will never take your advice. As a person who has helped raise my younger siblings, as well as taken care of other troubled youth I can assure you that spanking is never the correct choice to take. I may not be a parent, but I know with great certainty that if a child grows up in a home that respects him or her, then they will be very well behaved. That is how I grew up, and that is how my three other siblings are growing up. Mutual respect is the key, not fear.

i would hate for you to be my mother :) im a brat thats never been spanked pleased to meet ya x

It sounds like you were spanked the right way. You knew why you were being spanked. It wasn't too severe and I'm sure in the end you knew you were loved and forgiven. Spanking should not be the only tool in the parental toolbox, but it should always be there if it is needed.

You need to watch http://youtu.be/ONNRfflggBg

I think that a justified (and non abusive) spanking is good discipline for children. But never spank while mad and never do it just "because".

My niece and nephews are never spanked and their all spoiled...

I was spanked way too often and way too harshly and too often for reasons i did not understand.As my own 2 kids grew up I never spanked them,nor did i allow any one else to spank them.However,Im not saying that a little spanking is a bad thing in an extreme situation.Such as catching a Young child doing something rely dangerous to them,if it may save their life.Crossing the street,things like that.

i see your point, but i don't think i could "spank" a child or hurt it physically in anyway.

I agree. People need ti know the difference betwern spanking and abuse. My bro and I got spanked as children and it made us who we are today. I'm thankful that our parents taught us from right to wrong and disiplined us. If they didn't then we would end up in prison. So I thankful for my parents. But I agree with you on this one.

The arguement "I was spanked and I turned out fine" is totally specious. Many people were NOT spanked and turned out fine. Some WERE spanked and turned out bad.

I have a question for the grateful spankees out there: from all the posts I read, you are all happy, well adjusted, respectful and law abiding citizens, thanks to the discipline of the spank! cool. So as law abiding, good, well bred citizens, you are affirming that you are using, or will use spanking on your kids. But, the issue is that spanks and forms of physical handling are now unlawful. Basically you are breaking the law, or intending to break it. I don't get it. Good adjustment through decent (spanking) upbringing means flexibility, or at least a willingness to consider why the pressure of societal changes brought a change in the law? so, since now unlawful, pro-spankers should 1/ refrain from spanking their kids and 2/ take legal means to address the issue with the powers that be, including that they are pro-spanking while not engaging in an unlawful act? but many of you are STILL spanking! could you please explain this dichotomy? Because I am really confused by this double side.

Actually, I partly agree with you. Yes, I beleive a sound spanking IS effective. I do use CORNERTIME directly after I finish administering a spanking. I tend to think that having to stand and face the corner IS time of thoughtful reflection for a child.

There is a link between sexual arousal and spanks, as buttocks are physiologically close to reproductive organs. Some studies find that children spanked may experience arousal which they not only cant explain but are ashamed of, and some develop intimacy if not even perversion issues as they become adults. What is your take on this as a supporter of spanks, and how does it relate to feeling gratefulness later in life for those adults who now have found a direct relationship between smacks and their current sexuality issues?

My parents would spank my siblings and I whenever we did something that warranted one. Looking back on it now, it's one of the reasons why I'm here today. Now that three of us, including myself, are parents ourselves, we plan to include spanking as part of our list of ways to discipline our children.

AMEN! Spanking is discipline. I got spanked as a child.

Ukshaver, thanks ~ I agree: Discipline is necessary, but there is NO place for abuse. Most people know the difference!

100% agreed

Thanks for the breath of fresh air ... there have been too many other letters and other responses that go along the airy fairy love will resolve lines.......



Abuse must not be tolerated

Discipline - in various degrees IS needed

Straight, refers to a path thats not full of turns = not crooked, thus everyone can see what you're up to!

Narrow, is the way that lead to heaven according to the Holy Bible.

I find the mentality of 'children don't get spanked and so don't learn consquences' to be so absurd. Myself and my three siblings NEVER got spanked. Our parents believed in communication and patience. I am a gp and my three siblings are all in the medical professions as well. One being an oncologist and one an ENT specialist. We were not 'better' kids. But the fact that parents would rather whip/spank/beat their kids when there are other options is so rediculous it speaks of nothing bit a big fat kink. Putting the child over your lap...pulling the panties down and spanking their bottom. KINK........not needed yet still defended. Nothing more than strange. Spanking does NOT make a well adjusted adult. It is other factors. Non of my friends/family were spanked and not one of us are anything less than professional adults. Educate yourselves!! Texas is the world's biggest spanking State and yet has one of the biggest crime rates. Spankers are holding onto a tradition and they do it because they like it. As I say......a kink. Nothing more. Get therapy.

The primary problem with spanking is that most parents spank when they're angry. When human-beings get angry or upset our animalistic "fight or flight" response kicks in. Subconciously, we either want to attack the problem we're facing or run away from it. This triggers our adrenaline. That's why when we get angry or stressed out, we get tense. We have anger energy flowing through us.



When our adrenaline is pumping, we will hit harder when we mean to. Abusers usually don't mean to abuse. Oftentimes, parents who physically abuse are people who have spanked or hit their children when they are angry and have that anger adrenaline is rushing through their veins.



That's one reason that spanking is such a hot-button issue. Parents who would never consider abusing their children, who love their children dearly can be labeled "abusers" in the blink of an eye because of the adrenaline rush they experience during their anger.

Well as i have written,my experiances on other groups that i belong to on here,

i was brought up in the 70s as i was born 1963 ( yes old git lol) but i was brought up in a creing loveing home,but when i was naughty or done some thing wrong then yes i would of been,across my Mums lap for a good smacked bottom,which i had a few times,and some times sent to bed afterwards,but it taught me to behave,and respect,and at school i did rescive the slipper on two ocassions,but to be fair i derserved all of my smacked bottoms,both at home and school,my god i would not dare do half the stuff kids do now,or i would of not sat down for a fournight,i do not think grounding works,i wonder if there would be so many old ladies getting mugged,or thefts,or drug related crimes if these teenagers had of had Discipline in there life,so i do belive it should be brought backwell thats my opion any way

Glad you are so positive about the spankings you got.

I got spanked all my childhood and canned in early teen along with my sister and brothers and cousins, whenever we gone beyond the limits. And none of us got any regrets for it, provided we are all grateful to our parents that they raised us all with discipline and now we all are respected citizens.



I seriously believes that people who got no punishment in childhood when they deserves it, they eventually turned into neglected kind kids and when they grew older most of them become threats to society.



There is a lot of difference in abusing and disciplining, while spanking or canning.

i too was given my fair share of trips across my mother knee ,and too be fair i deseverd every one of them (little brat that i was) . i am old fashioned in the new world and I think if the kids now were raised the way i was in the 70's the world would be a better place. i dont belive in using belts or canes on kids ,but i do belive in firlm rules ,a spanking when needed and above all lots of love and understanding. grounding kids in a room full of computers and tvs teaches them nothing.

I think being physical; in anyway, to hurt, to teach a lesson is abuse.