"The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere."
—Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Many of us grew up in situations that required us to be constantly on our guard. We became so keenly attuned to the people around us and how to please them or avoid their anger that we lost contact with our inner messages. Rather than developing skills for drawing upon our inner resources, we developed skills for looking outward and reacting to whatever confronted us. This method of survival may have been necessary in the past while we were under stress, but it doesn't allow us any rest or the possibility of simply following what we know and feel is right.

We are learning to know what we think and feel and to express it, even if it isn't always what others want to hear. We can be spontaneous now because we have room for mistakes in our lives. Our relationships are more reliable, and we have more energy from sincerity than from always striving to make a good appearance.

Today, it is more important for me to be sincere than to be on my guard.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.
zeeva70 zeeva70
41-45, F
3 Responses Aug 19, 2014

Thank you

How come ur upset dear need a ear or

just how my child hood was i spent as much time in my room as i could just so i did not have to see or talk to my parents it was safer that way

My background's similar; I spent so much time alone. Lonely and isolated. Taught not to share the family's secret of abuse.

i had no friends at school or around me growing up and i only have one i can call a friend now and i dont see much of him i keep to my self