I Can Pick Out The Bad In My Life And Find The Good From It...

As a child I was made a ward of the state with my brother and sister... we lived in different foster homes and suffered physical and sexual abuse... BUT we learned how to become resourceful, we valued the kindness shown us from schoolfriends and other people, my sister and I developed a love of reading because we could disappear from our world of reality into the worlds we found in the stories we read eg. the Chronicles of Narnia, I learned how to pray and discovered my prayers being answered, when I had children of my own I was determined that they would have a mother that loved them and brought them to adulthood safe and sound...

My mother is either bipolar or schizophenic... so we were fortunate not to be raised by her, I have learned to be tolerant and/or understanding towards people like her, I can find the 'gold' within her and appreciate the fact that she is my mother and I have inherited a part of her that I can fall back on if need be (I can go absolutely mental if I really need to!!) but most of the time I'm sure I have my father's traits - cool, calm and collected :-)

My ex-partner used to send me abusive and hurtful text messages when I left him after 27 years together because there was no love in our partnership anymore BUT I sent him a text that said I forgave him and hoped he would find peace... we are now on friendly terms and sharing the custody of our youngest child and all our children know they are always welcome in either of our homes...

My oldest sister died of breast cancer at the age of 40yrs old but her children now live with their dad and a stepmother that cares deeply about them and my sister no longer has to suffer poverty or struggle to provide food and clothing for her children..

I was made bankrupt but I have been released from the constant treadmill of repaying debt and credit cards which I had been doing all my life... I gave up joint ownership of my home with my ex-partner but now I don't need to worry about repaying the mortgage and rates... I gave him custody of our youngest child but now he has more money left from his pay because he doesnt pay child-support anymore... my laptop became  useless after the hard-drive died on it but my new partner bought a laptop and lets me use it all the time, my job cut my hours from 57 per week to 40 hrs per week but now I have more time to spend at home and my lower income allowed me to file for bankruptcy otherwise I would have been earning too much and would have been compelled to make regular payments to my creditors...
truthseekr truthseekr
56-60, F
2 Responses Jul 20, 2010

All I can say to this story is a big WOW! You have an amazing way of seeing your life and I hope to apply this to mine as a result. Thank-you.

Your realization of the benefits to all of these things is a blessing also. Most would just say how bad things are and you see the benefits. Wonderful!