2 years into my marriage and just found out my husband is confused about whether he likes guys or not. He had a couple of experiments in the past. The thoughts are coming back again. From our conversations, he has told me he is embarrassed of that. He has told me that he wants to be with me and continue our marriage as it has been. He loves me. He says he is not thinking about exploring or trying to figure it out. He doesn't want to talk about this anymore and he won't tell me anything more than he already has. I am scared because what if he really wants to explore but he wants to not make it public because he is embarrassed and I am the cover up? What if he does explore? I do not know what to do at this point. I love him and want to be with him. We have a baby together and that makes it even harder. Do I get out of this marriage since it is so soon into it? Or do I stay in and hope that nothing will ever happen or find out 20 years later into our marriage he is exploring? He is not a bad guy, this is just a shocking situation for me and I do not know how to handle it? I am scared. Is this fair to me? Is it fair to live with someone who wonders sometimes and is confused about their sexuality? Is it fair to me, to give him myself while he is confused?

Do I believe him when he says I have nothing to worry about? Do I believe him when he says he is not really into this and the thoughts are very rare and they are just thoughts? Or do I leave him and give him the chance to explore? ( chances are right now he won't explore. He is not ready.)
viola411 viola411
26-30, F
2 Responses Aug 22, 2014

I don't know if he is gay or not. However, I waited too long. I held back and thought it was a phase or that I was bi. Now I realize that I am totally gay. I am trying to work up the courage to tell my wife. I love her so much. But in my heart, I want to be with another man. These feelings NEVER go away.

Make sure u use a condom with him