I Miscarried...

A few weeks ago...
At the beginning of the month I had found out I was pregnant. I was very happy, but I was only a few weeks along and didn't want to start telling everyone until we were at a good state within the pregnancy... and for good reason... only two days into knowing, I miscarried. They said it was due to stress (graduation, etc).
I guess I wasn't capable of talking about this until now... I've been trying to ignore it...
I've been trying to stay positive after the event, but --- like right now, it's effecting me.
Excitement turned into devastation.
I didn't want to post about it right away... I had written a story, but I was extremely emotionally distraught and took it down a few minutes after I had written it.
My fiance has been very supportive and extremely understanding. My moods have been flowing in and out lately. Some days I am very happy and other days, well, I get kinda down.
I'm hoping the move will be a start for new beginnings.
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13 Responses Aug 30, 2011

I can understand how you feel. I found out when I was only 4 weeks and didn't want to tell many people until after my first trimester was over. I've recently had a miscarriage after my 6th week and so many emotions are going on right now.

I am tired of people telling me if will be ok you can try again. All the happiness of being pregnant and now I feel so empty. People can tell you that they understand, but if they have not experienced it they truly can't.

It is so hard to not wonder what you did wrong and what you could have done differently. Recently a former co-workers daughter gave birth to a little girl and all it did was make me remember how I felt and was looking forward to that moment.

It has only been a week and I can't stop crying and wondering what I had. To me it wasn't just a fetus or embryo it was a tiny little person inside of me that meant the whole world to me.

I don't honestly know if I will ever be able to recover from this.

I understand. I have tried for five yrs and never been pregnant. J have pcos and been going through extreme therapy to become pregnant. Kn Christmas Eve I took my test +. I was so ecstatic!

I too only shared the joy for two days. Then bloodwork showed my levels dropping. I finished the miscarriage Friday. I am hurt as well, my emotions go up and down. I feel normal then I don't. I want to try again but then I don't.

My husband is wonderful, he is really helping me thru. But this us the most insane thing in my life.

I pray you find peace and relief as I pray for my own <3

Dealing with the loss of our loved one, especially our baby; is as painful as the cuts that we got and remembered back when we were toddlers. Only this time, our moms couldn't just give us candy and kiss away the pain that we're feeling. It may take some time I know, but always allow yourself to grieve and soon time will come that it'll all heal. All the best for you.

You WILL have another child. I was devastated after my miscarriages, and I was much older than you were and feared I would never have children. I had two! You are young and can have more. Most of the time, a miscarriage is caused by a random issue with the egg - there are just some eggs that will not develop into a child. It's nothing you did wrong. Often, we think maybe it was something we did right before the miscarriage that caused it (a fight with a boyfriend, stress, something we ate) and it turns out it had nothing to do with it. So many people are stressed or have lots of trauma while pregnant and they still give birth (look at the teen moms on tv!) I worried that I had one of my miscarriages because I was running up and down stairs all the time at work. Turns out, after testing, the fetus had downs syndrome and wasn't going to develop any further. There are other reasons, and if you have more than 2 mc's they will test you to see if it's a clotting disorder or something else, but I just want to make sure that A you don't blame yourself and B you don't fear never having children, because there are so many tests and ways to have children these days. As an older mom, I know all about it now. Happy Mother's Day, because I can tell from the love in your post that you wil be a GREAT mother! (I have posted similar things on similar stories but it's true for all.)

I know how you feel, I was 8 weeks pregnant last week and went for my U/S and they told me there was no heartbeat. So I still have not miscarried and my dr wants me to wait to see if I miscarry. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I never want to go through it again. I feel for you. keep your head up and stay strong!

Thanks for sharing with us. A month ago my wife miscarried, our story is similar to yours, she wasn't far along and we had only told a couple of people that we were pregnant. A month later she isn't 100 percent in her mind. She has become moody, and rather melancholy about things. It took me a couple of weeks as well, but I'm ready to move on and try again. My wife says she is but her actions say differently. Thanks again for sharing I will be more patient with my wife since reading your story and those of the others who commented.

sorry to hear that. :(

Sometimes it happens , it is normal phenomena with older women . Something like you have to get pregnant few times before the womb get use to hold on foster. It is rather stupid to blame it on stress etc.. Definitely if you live more balanced , everything feels more natural . All the best from here:)

I am so sorry, I know how you feel. I just recently miscarried myself, so I know how painful it is. But you have to do everything in your power to stay positive. That is the most important thing.

I just recently had a miscarrige myself, Like sugar I wasnt trying to get pregnant it just kinda happened. As soon as I found out, I was really worried how was I going to do this? Then I started getting excited!! After a week of knowing I lost it, I have never felt so much pain. I was extremly depressed for a few days I couldnt eat, I didnt want to be bothered, all I wanted was it all to b a dream. Everyone kept telling me that things happen for a reason, which started ****** me off it still does, Im like cant ppl just leave me be. I was ready to b a mom, but obviously God didnt want me to be right yet. I have dreams to go to school but its soooo hard in this economy!! I cant sleep at night still to this day, I have really bad dreams, I dont like being around a crowd of people. I am getting stronger each day, thats all you can do hun, I am sorry for your lost :(

I also had a miscarriage fairly early on. It was devastating and i wasn't even trying to get pregnant. If I can offer any advice at all it would be to allow yourself to feel whatever emotions you need to. I had a d&c and the day after the surgery i felt so positive and felt like I was able to move on-boy was I wrong. It took about 6 months for me to really grieve it and I still have moments where I will see a child and think-wow I could have a 4 month old right now if that wouldn't have happened. I wish you well :)

I am sorry for your loss. I truly hope the day will come when you get to experience pregnancy again and hold little one in your arms.

I'm so sorry, hun. Unfortunately, this is a heartbreak that ties so very many women together in the sadness and emptiness we live with afterwards. I pray for you and your fiance that you will, as soon as possible, be blessed as he parents of a happy, healthy baby. (((((hugs))))) Sugar