I Lost My Baby

I just lost my baby 2 days ago. I was almost 3 months pregnant and i started having some bleeding followed by pain. I went to the hospital and when they did an ultrasound they found no heartbeat. After the doctor looked at the ultrasound they determined that my baby had stopped growing at 9 and a half weeks. They had to sedate me and remove everything from me. I don't know how to deal with this. I can't stop crying and feeling completely empty. I have lost the desire to eat, i can't sleep because of nightmares and now i feel that I'm driving a wedge into the relationship of my fiancé and I. I have no desire to play with my step son because i can't find the energy and everything makes me sad. I don't know what to do. Can someone please help me with any advice. I don't want to feel this way anymore. How do i move past this and get back to my life????
spanellie spanellie
3 Responses Jan 7, 2013

Im sorry this happened to you...its really a hard thing to move on from. I had a miscarriage in septemberm2011, it was my first pregnancy, but as time goes on you do feel better, just talk about it as much as you want, that always helped me. Even now when i sit down and think about what happened it makes me cry. Ive learned to deal with it but its hard to see everyone around me have kids. But just take your time to grieve, its something you never really get over, and don't get discouraged if you plan to get pregnant again, just enjoy being with your family and keep busy. I pray that you will get through this and have a healthy pregnancy the next time around.

I'm in the same boat i had so much pain and a unbearable backache. I went to the hospital and i had my baby while sitting on the toilet...imagine how terrified and shook i was..i was 3 days away from 3 months..i feel like a part of my life just left me...i hope u feel better and pray you will get through this.

Idk I wish I could help . I experienced the same thing. I feel that talking about it and sharing your story helped me. Try to stay busy to keep ur mind off it. Stay strong ur in my prays.

thank you so much. I'm doing my best to stay strong. its really difficult because my fiancé had this happen to him once before with a previous relationship.... and this is the first time I've ever been pregnant let alone experienced this kind of loss. and to top it al off i have everyone breathing down my throat saying just move on, move forward and none of them seem to understand that it is far more easier said than done.... again i do appreciate your condolences. if you have any advice on how you started to get back to normal i would be more than grateful to hear it. thank you and I'm sorry you had to go through this as well

I know everyone thinks by just saying move on its as easy as that .. but its the hardest thing ill ever had to experience. I still get emotional when i see a child in public or a women pregnant and i lost my child in october. Things do get easier though. I found that keeping a journal to write your feelings down helped me alot. My husband and i wrote in it whenever we were overwhelmed or upset or just needed to vent about our loss. Honestly talking to family and friends can help bring your confidence back up to. best wishes