I Have Not Had A Vbac But Do Need Advice!

I am 19 years old and am due August 27th, 2013. I had a C-Section in 2011 when my daughter was born in July. About 2 weeks before my due date my daughter flipped and was breech and my Dr. did not really give me an option she basically told me I had to have a C-section. Honestly I wasn't too nervous or upset about having a C-section. The thought of a vaginal delivery freaked me out and I was so done being pregnant. I had numerous u.t.i's, 2 kidney stones, pyelonephritis, anxiety and so many other problems during my pregnancy. I also had a threatened miscarriage where I just started bleeding like crazy out of nowhere. I thought I would never survive it all.
The C-section went well but I really did not enjoy not seeing my daughter or be being able to hold her on my chest when she was born. I feel like it really ruined our initial bonding. I also hated being doped up in the hospital and feeling like I was high off of Percocet. The recovery was horrible too it felt like it took me about 2 months to stand up straight without feeling like my insides would fall out.
I am very nervous about having a vbac and my ob/gyn basically gave me the option to choose a repeat C-section or a Vbac and I have about 7 months to make a decision.
ANY advice would be helpful!!!!!!!!
18-21, F
2 Responses Jan 21, 2013

It has been 20 years ago, but I had your situation. I was 19 and my son had fetal distress and had to be born emergency c-section. I got pregnant 6 months later and was worried the entire pregnancy on what was the best option. I delivered my daughter vaginally. After vaginal delivery you can pretty much pick up and go. The c-section made me sore and winded for ever. I am so glad I had her vaginally and for some reason I felt more like a woman/mother for doing it. I felt kind of like a failure with the c-section even though it was not my fault. It is also safer than to have another surgery.

Hi MM2XM, I'm not sure about giving you advice-I think only a doctor should do that. That said I've had 2 c-sections then a VBAC so I can relate to your situation.
Only you can decide whether your fear of a vaginal delivery is stronger than how you feel about another C-section.
Personally I my preferred my drug free 'natural' birthing experience infinitely more than the c-sections. It was a magical experience while my c-sections had been..well,surgical operations. As you well know!
But all pregnancies,births and mothers are different so please don't take that as advice! :) Talk to your ob if you haven't already about VBAC risks,and maybe chat to women who have given birth about your fears around birthing.
I'm sure you'll make the right choice for you,and best of luck with the pregnancy!

Thank you for telling me your experience :)