Advice

hi, i know that it may be late to say this, but i hope im not being rude in still saying a little. Im sure you know that many people would love your baby. In fact, i wish that i knew you so we could set up an independent adoption and not just be a random stranger who says strange things like that on the internet. I know your not ready. But so many people are and...im so sorry, i just know that when i read that you chose to have the abortion i started to shake. Im not the overly emotional kind so it really hit me.maybe you should consider adoption. I think an open adoption would even be beneficial to you. Please don't kill a living thing that's inside of your body. Esp. if you really don't want to and you Will feel bad about it. Because there are all kinds of people out there like myself that would love to adopt using open adoption so that the mother wont have to be financially responsible but will still be able to get to know there child.

Thanks for your sincere honesty in sharing that you don't want this baby because you want to sleep. I understand that. If you want to sleep this much (12 hrs) could you be suffering from depression? It doesn't always affect one's "mood" but may affect one's energy level and motivation. A fast pill (antidepressant after the birth of your second child) can fix this. I take 2 antidepressants for major suicidal depression and it works. I suffered greatly for years and finally found the right things to work for me.



I had an abortion years ago and didn't deal with what I truly did (because I was too sick with depression) until when I had to put my dog down years later. The "shame" I experienced from grieving over my dog and not grieving over what I did to my child was overwhelming. I had to ask the Lord for forgiveness, cried a lot, and then named my baby, Love. This helped, but it will never change what I did to my little girl.



Many women who believe abortion is okay are the one's who are deceived and don't think that this is a baby. They call the baby "cells" and "it". Please! You know that this is your child and that being as it is, you need to make the right decision. You don't want to be haunted by unborn life. Pray over this. God bless!

It is ultimately for you to decide but I had an abortion 5 years ago and there has not been one single day that i have not thought about my horrible decision and the child who's beating heart i stopped. My life has never been the same since then and my heart has had this heaviness on it since June 23 2005. I find happiness in things true but always have that sadness in my heart.

I agree with all the women. I had an abortion back in 2004. I still regret the abortion. Every story I have read from other ladies, are similar cause they all think about " what If???" I wish I could prevent 1 woman from all the mental process that I had to go through due to the abortion. I agree with Ranas, please stop and think about this choice! After I had my son in 2006 all the pain came back to me. All I could think about was how I miss my baby, that tiny baby who would now be in kindergarden, is gone he or she did not deserve to be aborted. I know it's strange how I suppressed the trauma for 21/2 years until I had my son. I thought I was going to go insane because of the effect of my actions, but with the grace of god, a good support system, counseling I did not. This might be a little personal, and if it is I apologize but why are you doubting keeping this precious baby? Is it a fear? My boyfriend at the time did not want to keep our child cause he could not afford it. I know, that is no excuse but his every word I latched onto. I was hoping he would tell me to stop don't do this, I want to keep our baby but no such luck.



My life now is better. I have forgiven myself. I went back to college to counsel, also have my lil man who will be 4 in feb. I know god has forgiven me for the choice I made; cause he gave me a precious baby boy that I always wanted. :-) A supportive husband...:)



God bless you! And I hope you make the best choice.......:-)

I have a 12 year old and a 6 year old and they are the loves of my life.. and by the way im a single parent.. i had an abortion in march of this year..and let me tell you how i feel, im sad,and i made the wrong fast choice, the easy way out, and always find myself thinking of the WHAT IF??? it's something i regret doing and will take with me for the rest of my life.. so my advise to you would be don't do it but of course its your choice...stop and think..

You are happy with the way your life is now. But, should you have an abortion, your life will never be the same. You, your husband, the dynamic of your family will never be the same. You will for ever be a changed person and you may not like yourself. That dislike may not be apparent right away. It may take years before you realize why you have been saddened, cry easily, developed low self -esteem, unable to find peace. Having a child is difficult. Living life is difficult. Nothing is more difficult to live with than knowing that you have destroyed a life. Especially the life of your own innocent baby. Don't go with your comfort zone. Go, always, with what you KNOW is true. Killing your baby will be a death sentence for you, as well. You will function and you will find joy at times. But, never to the degree that you would have had you allowed what God meant to happen, happen.

In the same boat, not sure I can give advice accept to say that I'm facing the same issue.

In the same boat, not sure I can give advice accept to say that I'm facing the same issue.