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I Am Thinking About Having An Abortion!

Hi everyone,
Well my story is kind of crazy and I still can't believe how I got to this point in my life! I am still married ( soon to be divorced) but my husband had an affair while I was 8 months pregnant with our 2nd child. Our baby boy is now 7 months old and our daughter is 2 years old. last month I have took plan B twice to make sure I do not get pregnant and we also used condoms. My husband now tells me that his affair is 12 weeks pregnant from him. Well, it was a shocker but the phone call from my doctor shocked me even more! He had told me that my HCG level is 8 which was very low and he said I might of had a miscarriage or will still have one. I don't know when I actually got pregnant coz my last period was 2 months ago and I took 6 hpt in that time and all negative! My 2nd blood test from today had an HCG level 140 which means I am pregnant and I dont even feel pregnant and I really don't want a 3rd child right now! I can not care for a 3rd child! I want to be there for my two little ones that will need me more then ever after our divorce since we will be moving to start a new life. My body is not healthy enough to carry a baby, I have lost tons of weight due to not eating the way I should be, I started smoking again since the affair (totally stressed), I have been drinking with friends on the weekends and I am just so tired from taking care of everything on my own. When my daughter was born I had postpartom depression and I think I still don't have the bond with her sometimes. I love her to death but sometimes it still hurts to know that I had such horriable feelings. When she was 3 months old my father had past away and I was not there. I think I am still trying to get over that.  Well, I guess deep down inside I just know that I have to be a healthy stable mother for my two children and I have to focus on what will happen next, to try to make a nice,comfy and secure home for them. If I am pregnant now, that means I have been prego for the last 3 years and my body needs a break! This can not be healthy and what gets me the most is, that my husband is ok with it. He said congratulations when I told him! I mean really? It's like I already have a 3rd child and I am pregnant with my 4th! I wish things would be different and I would have a husband that cared about us and would give me the support that I need to raise these kids! I am so hopping that I just will have a miscarriage but if not I think it is really the best for me to say goodbye to this baby so I can get my life back on track and take good care of my babies that I have!
vitoo vitoo 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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So the doctor said: 'Ok and what do you want me to do?' <br />
She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm counting on your help with this.' <br />
The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: 'I think I have a better solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too.' <br />
She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request. <br />
Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take care 2 babies at the same time, let's kill the one in your arms.<br />
This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we're going to kill one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms.<br />
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The lady was horrified and said: 'No doctor! How terrible! It's a crime to kill a child! <br />
'I agree', the doctor replied. 'But you seemed to be OK with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution.<br />
The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point. <br />
He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that's already been born and one that's still in the womb.<br />
The crime is the same!<br />
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Please check this: http://www.inplainsite.org/html/the_face_of_abortion.html

i think u should keep the baby,<br />
the happines and gud health is upto God.<br />
Abortion is illogical

Hang in there, mama! I would consider an abortion if I were you. I had one back in January and while I think about it once in a while, I feel I made the right decision. I have 2 kids as well, and while I am with husband, he didn't want another at all, and it could have been the end of our relationship, just don't think it would withstand that. Either decision you will sometimes wonder if you made the right decision, it isn't true that having the baby means you will never regret it. You will loev the baby, but it could affect the bonding and your family of course. I also took medicine before i knew i was pregnant that increased risk of heart defects a bit, that factored into my decision a bit as well.

Maybe you should see a counselor first. you have been throuh so much emotionally you might not be thinking as clearly as you want to be to make such a big decision. Just don't rush into it if you can help it because if it isn't the right one for you, you could end up regretting it the rest of your life. you could also consider adoption. I know you are already a parent and if you are that overwhelmed and want to focus on the children you have there are alot of great families that can focus on it the way you can't. Lastly you might ask your doctor what he thinks about your health because he might agree and think and abortion is best. You need to do whats best for you and the babies you have, but you also want to make sure its really and truly the right decision.

I am prochoice but I wouldn't tell a woman to have an abortion. The decision is up to the woman. I also had an abortion due to health problems.. My mom who is very religious tried to talk me out of it. Since I am a spiritual person (not religious), I "talked" to the spirit of the fetus explaining why I was terminating the pregnancy and asked for its forgiveness. <br />
After the termination, I had several dreams that it was a girl. I named her Angelique Celeste and in memory of her, I released balloons into the sky.