I Cant Get Over The Abortioni have been with my husband for 13 yrs married for 7 together we have three children. four years ago i found out i was pregnant with our fourth child. our third child was 11 wks old at the time. there is a only 12 mnth age gap between the two youngest, we had discussed the issue of not having anymore. i had asked him to have a vasectomy because i cannot take the pill and other hormone related contraceptives. but he would not go ! he said that if i had the baby he would leave us and he didnt want the baby there is no way i could support the four of us on my own with out major upheaval for the kids i couldnt do it.
so i went after the discussion at the clinic they refused to carry it out as i was so emtional upset by the thought of abortion, so i came home we then had massive rows the next day i went back on my own and went through with it . it was the worst mistake of my life, i realised the day after what a huge mistake i had made after a month i explained to him i wanted another child, however he then informed me he had been for a vasectomy and that wasnt going to happen- how doctors can do that we are married i think i should of been asked.consulted something ? i begged him many times for a reversal and he agreed but never went back.
its my birthday today and there is not a day goes by when i dont think about it. i getting to old for another child i'm in my late 30's i still cry and i hate him for it yet we are still together ? i have been to counselling and physics it pain that never goes away and still makes me cry even when iam typing this. is there anyone in the same postion?
lumelume 36-40 3 Responses 0 Dec 26, 2010