My Appointment Is Tomorrow Morning...

So I've been dating this guy for about 4 months now. After only a couple of weeks he told me that he wanted to marry me and be with me forever. He's met my family, my daughter (who is now only 7 months old) and everything. One day about two months ago he dropped off the face of the planet and I didnt hear from him for three weeks when he text me apologizing and saying that he was just scared and made a mistake. So I gave him another chance and immediately he was telling me that he wanted us to have a baby together. Then about 3 weeks ago he stopped talking to me again! A week later I found out I was pregnant and even still couldn't get ahold of him! I did some investigating and discovered that he has another fiancé! He proposed to her a month before we even met. I'm so heartbroken because I we planned this baby and now he wants me to get an abortion! I dont want to have the baby because I don't want another baby with another person I'm not with, but I feel guilty about aborting a baby that we made on purpose. My appointment is tomorrow morning and I am only 5 weeks pregnant but so conflicted. I don't know what to do.
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3 Responses May 24, 2012

If you want, you can try going to a pregnancy resource center for help, as they offer free financial aid, adoption options, counseling, and counseling to post abortive women. <br />
I would not advise having an abortion just because he wants you to have one. Lots of people regret letting someone else pressure them into an abortion. Good luck to you.

Save your baby's life. Do not blame her for her father's shortcomings. Your child does not deserve to die because your relationship is a failure. Keep the baby. Lose the man.

Sweetie, if you are conflicted, you should reschedule the appointment until you are sure that you know how you want to proceed. You have time. I know it must be a really hard decision for you, especially with an infant at home already, from both angles. You know how hard it is to raise a child on your own; and yet you couldn't imagine harming another one.<br />
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This is not a decision to make lightly; or to let someone else influence you into making. My sons' father pressured me to abort both of them; I'd already had an abortion when I was younger and knew I wouldn't do that again. And to this day, I'm relieved that we didn't do things, "his way".<br />
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But you don't need to have a baby daddy to have another baby, and if you're not sure what to do? Don't just walk in there and let yet someone else encourage you either way to make a decision you're clearly just not ready to make yet. You have time still, and making the wrong choice here could leave you scarred for life emotionally. Just read some of these other stories... it's not a decision to make lightly. I won't encourage you either way; I'll just encourage you to give yourself more time. People reschedule or cancel appointments all the time, and a good clinic will understand that you're simply not there yet as far as being sure that you're sure... and you gotta be sure. But don't let some guy who is dishonest, who has been unfaithful and untrue to you, encourage you to let him off the hook so easily. This is your life, your body, and your baby... my two sons are eleven and a half months apart to the day.... it's really easier to have them closer together, in my opinion... while you're busy raising babies, that is.<br />
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You just have to go with whichever decision lets you sleep at night... whichever one doesn't cause your gut to just tingle with anxiety. Anxiety is our inner being's way of telling us, "You're about to make the wrong choice." Just don't do anything in a rush that you'll regret, okay?