I Had An Abortion
A few weeks ago, some of you may have read my story "I Always Said I Never Would". It was a tough, but yet easy decision.
I'm 24 years old, going back to school in September to get my undergrad and recently separated from my boyfriend. On July 3, I found out I was pregnant. I new right away I couldn't have this baby. I wasn't in love with the father and I was on my way to getting my life back on track. I scheduled my appointment for July 27th because I had so many commitments, I couldn't do it sooner. It was the worst 3 weeks of my life. Morning sickness had kicked in, and I couldn't wait for the 27th to come. I was also hoping on the side that this was all a dream and that I'd wake up or that it would just go away on its own. It never did. On the day of my appointment, which I had at BC womens Health (I'm from Vancouver, Canada), every person in that building was absolutely awesome. I was nervous and scared about the operation. I had read so many stories of it being horrible and I was afraid it would hurt so bad. My aunt came with me, and she wasn't allowed in the back room so I had to go alone. I first met with a counselor, she talked to me about birth control options, how it happened, how I felt and explained the procedure. I was then brought into a room where you wait to go in and then recover there after the procedure. I was asked to change into a skirt and given a sanitary pad to put into my underwear for right after the procedure. I was taken back to the bed and given an IV, some medication and Ibuprofen. I was then taken to the examination room and given a hot blanket to wrap around myself. At that point, I was so nervous and I knew there was no turning back. The nurse gave me an ultrasound which I wanted to see, I am a very curious person. It was kind of cool to see that I actually had something growing inside of me. It was kind of like a goodbye in a sense. The nurse then injected me with a drug that basically makes you feel separated from the situation. She talked to me throughout the whole process and I knew what was happening, but I wasn't able to acknowledge it was actually happening. Once they were finished, they put my underwear on and helped me into a wheelchair and back into my bed where I rested for the next 40 minutes. I actually napped because I was so drowsy. They woke me up and offered me tea and cookies (which I took the cookies, who doesn't like cookies?) They made sure I wasn't bleeding very much and then they let me leave. My overall experience with the abortion was great. The fetus was only 7weeks and perhaps because it was an early termination, it made it easier. I haven't bled since. I also have not regretted my decision. I made my decision because I knew where my life was going. I knew I would not be a great mother at this point in my life and that I could never ever possibly give a child the life it deserved. Every child deserves a fair chance at a good life. I know that when the day comes that i become a mother, it'll be because I can love and support that child like it should be. Please don't be scared to do something like this. You might be afraid that it's not the right decision, but if you can honestly tell yourself that you'd be a great mother, then do it, but if you can't, you know what you need to do. Make sure you weigh out the pros and cons to having this child. And if you do choose to not carry this baby to term, don't be scared of the procedure itself. I was able to be myself the next day and I have done nothing but relax in the sun until tomorrow comes for work. I wish you all the best and I hope my story has helped someone out there to make their decision. Just remember, it's OK to not have it. If you're scared, just remember that it's a hell of a lot scarier knowing that the rest of your life if about to have someone in it for ever. I'm always happy to talk to anyone if they need it. And for any of you in the Vancouver area, I strongly suggest the Womens CARE program at the womens hospital. The best experience and the most wonderful and supportive staff.
AChristine
I'm 24 years old, going back to school in September to get my undergrad and recently separated from my boyfriend. On July 3, I found out I was pregnant. I new right away I couldn't have this baby. I wasn't in love with the father and I was on my way to getting my life back on track. I scheduled my appointment for July 27th because I had so many commitments, I couldn't do it sooner. It was the worst 3 weeks of my life. Morning sickness had kicked in, and I couldn't wait for the 27th to come. I was also hoping on the side that this was all a dream and that I'd wake up or that it would just go away on its own. It never did. On the day of my appointment, which I had at BC womens Health (I'm from Vancouver, Canada), every person in that building was absolutely awesome. I was nervous and scared about the operation. I had read so many stories of it being horrible and I was afraid it would hurt so bad. My aunt came with me, and she wasn't allowed in the back room so I had to go alone. I first met with a counselor, she talked to me about birth control options, how it happened, how I felt and explained the procedure. I was then brought into a room where you wait to go in and then recover there after the procedure. I was asked to change into a skirt and given a sanitary pad to put into my underwear for right after the procedure. I was taken back to the bed and given an IV, some medication and Ibuprofen. I was then taken to the examination room and given a hot blanket to wrap around myself. At that point, I was so nervous and I knew there was no turning back. The nurse gave me an ultrasound which I wanted to see, I am a very curious person. It was kind of cool to see that I actually had something growing inside of me. It was kind of like a goodbye in a sense. The nurse then injected me with a drug that basically makes you feel separated from the situation. She talked to me throughout the whole process and I knew what was happening, but I wasn't able to acknowledge it was actually happening. Once they were finished, they put my underwear on and helped me into a wheelchair and back into my bed where I rested for the next 40 minutes. I actually napped because I was so drowsy. They woke me up and offered me tea and cookies (which I took the cookies, who doesn't like cookies?) They made sure I wasn't bleeding very much and then they let me leave. My overall experience with the abortion was great. The fetus was only 7weeks and perhaps because it was an early termination, it made it easier. I haven't bled since. I also have not regretted my decision. I made my decision because I knew where my life was going. I knew I would not be a great mother at this point in my life and that I could never ever possibly give a child the life it deserved. Every child deserves a fair chance at a good life. I know that when the day comes that i become a mother, it'll be because I can love and support that child like it should be. Please don't be scared to do something like this. You might be afraid that it's not the right decision, but if you can honestly tell yourself that you'd be a great mother, then do it, but if you can't, you know what you need to do. Make sure you weigh out the pros and cons to having this child. And if you do choose to not carry this baby to term, don't be scared of the procedure itself. I was able to be myself the next day and I have done nothing but relax in the sun until tomorrow comes for work. I wish you all the best and I hope my story has helped someone out there to make their decision. Just remember, it's OK to not have it. If you're scared, just remember that it's a hell of a lot scarier knowing that the rest of your life if about to have someone in it for ever. I'm always happy to talk to anyone if they need it. And for any of you in the Vancouver area, I strongly suggest the Womens CARE program at the womens hospital. The best experience and the most wonderful and supportive staff.
AChristine
By:
AChristine
Age:
22-25
