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I Already Have 2 Kids, Can I Have An Abortion?

I am 29 and I have 2 kids. Both are from 2 different failed relationships, and both fathers are total jerks, with no involvement w the kids. My son was born when I was 23 and 5 years later I had my daughter, just 9 mos ago. My son was from a man that I was with for 9 years, and when he left he wanted nothing to do with either of us, not event the son he had raised for 5 years. He now parties and joined a bad in a different state. The last thing that he ever said to me was, "You can tell him I am dead, at least he had a father for 5 years." Next came along a guy that I was seeing for only 3 mos when I became pregnant w our daughter. I considered not having her, because I could already tell that there was a lot wrong w this guy, and I was finally recovering from my 9 year dysfunctional relationship. I had her, and I love her completely. I stayed w her father on and off while he became abusive, dysfunctional, turns out he was a drug addict and a felon. He ended up stealing all of my $ in my bank account when he got a hold of my new debit card and my hide a key. He has stollen from me, threatened me, he has brought people here to rob me, he is sick! He was in rehab for a while, and after he was released, I had decided to try seeing him again! Big mistake! He robbed me, stole from his own baby, and my son! He is a disgusting person. When I had him arrested, he called me from the police station to yell at me, and blame me! He has never paid child support ever, and never will! Now they are both gone, but turns out that he left me w one more surprise, another pregnancy. I am horrified. I do not know what to do. I feel soooo stupid. I am still very early. I am making an appointment to have an abortion. I became VERY sick during both pregnancies, and now I have a 9 mo old, and emotionally I cannot handle having this baby! IDK if I could even do it! I have decided not to continue w it. I just signed up to finally complete my 4 year degree, I can not do this to myself or my 2 wonderful kids. I feel awful and guilty, but I just can't do this. The responsibility has never and will never be anyone else's. I have never had help other then my family's support. I can't put them through this either. I feel badly about what needs to be done, but it has to be. I never thought that this is how my life would turn out, but it has, and now I want to concentrate on my kids and my future, even thought I feel torn up about this.
I feel badly also because choosing to have my other 2 were the best decisions of my life, but it did complicate my life A LOT. I would not choose anything else for them, but I can not do this alone again.
AnnieSawyer00 AnnieSawyer00 26-30 7 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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You have to do what is right for your life and your situation. Good luck to you, Annie!

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TO LiesFaknessNosy2FaceMiserable, <br />
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I barely understood what you wrote. You sound like an idiot! You have no idea what it takes to raise a child, give birth, or anything like that. I hate to tell you this SWEETY, but screw you, I did what every human on this planet has been doing for millions of years, something that is totally natural and normal, I had sex, get over yourself! You sound like a Moran referring to sex as "opening my legs". NO APOLOGIES. You seem to be especially hateful towards women, sweety! I am a spiritual person, so don't try to use God as an excuse to hate! God doesn't hate, you do!<br />
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Murder is the unlawful killing of a person. Fertilized eggs are not people! Thus abortion is not murder. Q.E.D.<br />
I don’t understand at all why people believe so strongly that abortion is murder. At conception we are talking about a single celled organism. How can such a thing have civil rights? I think religion leads people to this weird view: they think God must stuff a soul in there at the moment of conception.<br />
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I am not saying that pregnancy means nothing, but plenty end naturally at this point and no one is calling it MURDER! <br />
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HERE ARE THE FACTS: Men that are agents women having abortions! <br />
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1 don't care that this enslaves a woman's body and life.<br />
2. don't care about a woman's ability to support herself, finish her education, and choose the life she wants to have, so they don't love, care about, or respect women.<br />
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3. don't care about women's rights, so they don't love, care about, or respect women.<br />
4. don't care about the woman's health, so they don't love, care about or respect women.<br />
5. Will never have to face this choice, so their opinion

TO LiesFaknessNosy2FaceMiserable, <br />
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I barely understood what you wrote. You sound like an idiot! You have no idea what it takes to raise a child, give birth, or anything like that. I hate to tell you this SWEETY, but screw you, I did what every human on this planet has been doing for millions of years, something that is totally natural and normal, I had sex, get over yourself! You sound like a Moran referring to sex as "opening my legs". NO APOLOGIES. You seem to be especially hateful towards women, sweety! I am a spiritual person, so don't try to use God as an excuse to hate! God doesn't hate, you do!<br />
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Murder is the unlawful killing of a person. Fertilized eggs are not people! Thus abortion is not murder. Q.E.D.<br />
I don’t understand at all why people believe so strongly that abortion is murder. At conception we are talking about a single celled organism. How can such a thing have civil rights? I think religion leads people to this weird view: they think God must stuff a soul in there at the moment of conception.<br />
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I am not saying that pregnancy means nothing, but plenty end naturally at this point and no one is calling it MURDER! <br />
<br />
HERE ARE THE FACTS: Men that are agents women having abortions! <br />
<br />
1 don't care that this enslaves a woman's body and life.<br />
2. don't care about a woman's ability to support herself, finish her education, and choose the life she wants to have, so they don't love, care about, or respect women.<br />
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3. don't care about women's rights, so they don't love, care about, or respect women.<br />
4. don't care about the woman's health, so they don't love, care about or respect women.<br />
5. Will never have to face this choice, so their opinions ARE INVALID, MEANINGLESS!

Did you know that most abortions are actually performed on married women or women who already have children? It is nothing to be ashamed of. All life is beautiful, including yours as well. There is no logical reason why you should have to sacrifice yours to raise another child if you cannot provide the love and care it would need.<br />
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Perhaps if you are torn, you might try thinking of a plan to provide for another child. If you find that plan is unrealistic and not very feasible, it might be better to terminate. However if it seems like a realistic and attainable plan, maybe you might want to consider carrying the baby to term.<br />
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I think in your heart you will know what is right for you and your family, even though either decision may not be easy. As you said in your story, first and foremost you need to work on providing for your two children and the education or degree it will take to do that. So focusing on that and the quality of your own life, hopefully you will be able to make a decision that is best for your situation.<br />
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P.S. I would urge you to stay away from the last boyfriend. I know there must have been some emotional aspect in your relationship to keep going back to him, but it seems not only is he a toxic person, but dangerous to you and your family as well. I don't think he will ever be able to sincerely return whatever feelings you had for him. I hope you can find the strength to move on. Surely there is a person deserving of you and your children's love out there.

Please don't listen to LiesFaknessNosy2FaceMiserable they obviously have a mental illness and feel the need to bully people in an online forum under anonymous terms because they are too pathetic to come to terms with their own life. People like this feel the need to transfer their own unhappiness onto others because they are sick individuals with nothing better to do with their time. All you bible preachers out there really need to take a look at what message you think you are sending. If you really believed in Christianity and Jesus Christ you wouldn't be a hateful, judgmental ****.

When u stand befor God when u die,do u think he's going to be hella impressed w/any1's success(degree)in life lol..No sweety hes goin to see how u were a muderer&did it only so selfishly. Only thinking of me,me,me. Selfish ppl whn they are 6ft. deep,eventually nobody will remember thee. But living a life of lies,only brings one life unfree,but being a murder even worst. The bible speaks on,how a muderer see's no peace nor rest. So in the end wht u thought was best. Only tornments your soul&you'll never really experience what life has best. Lets just say u aquire a taste of wht the world calls a human chase,money,success,prestiage,in the end all that will be erased..but how when no money can ever buy a womens conscience or some peace? P.s..u cheated,u open ur legs,u sleep w/men&at the end their is no one to blame for the choices you make. Abortion kills,the bible says: "it,would have been better to tie a millstone around the neck&drown urself in the ocean,then to hurt a child?

The bible also speaks on people who are intolerant and unloving to others. Do not act like you are better than her. The bible counts all sins as equal. What will you say if you get to heaven and god asks you why you felt it was your duty to do his judging and damning for him instead of offering your love and support for your fellow neighbor? I see nothing about your comment that is not the same selfishness and me, me, me attitude you are trying to condemn the OP for.

As it applies to abortion and Christianity, god is willing to forgive if the person is sorrowful. But if the OP is religious, it is up to her to find her own peace with god or whatever she believes in, not yours.