Saved My Daughter From A Life Of Suffering.

I chose to end my daughter's pain and suffering at 21 weeks because she was diagnosed with Spina Bifida. Spina Bifida is a severe birth defect. It was the humane thing to do. She would have suffered a life of severe physical, mental and emotional pain and disability had I carried her to term. Imagine having major surgery every year of your life, being paralyzed and unable to walk, constantly living with a catheter and a colon bag because you can't control your bladder or bowel movements, and struggling mentally and emotionally from brain damage. Life is hard enough without having all that extra suffering thrown in. I loved my daughter too much to allow her to have that kind of life, and I am thankful that I had the opportunity and the choice, to let her go to a better place. I didn't want to say goodbye.  I love her and miss her, but I knew it was the morally right choice for me. It was hard to let her go, but I am grateful that I had the right to prevent her pain and suffering. In the days before modern medicine babies born with Spina Bifida (holes in their spines) did not live for very long past delivery. They died from infection. And that was not only painful for them, but painful for the helpless mother to watch. Is this what pro-lifers advocate? How barbaric!  I chose the most humane thing that I could for my daughter. Abortion isn't right for everyone, but it was right for me. I respect other people's right to choose differently.  But the point is, no one can, nor should! make these hard decisions for you. These are difficult choices to make. They affect your body, they affect your family, your emotions, your finances, your morality, your future, and most of all, your heart.  No one should take away a woman's right to choose what is right for her.
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3 Responses Sep 11, 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can safely say that if I was in the same position I would make the same decision. Quality of life is a huge aspect of life. I hate that the anti-choice side insist on using the term pro-life, when I find most of them are pro-war, pro-death penalty, meat eaters (and often hunters), and don't support universal health care. It's like saying you care about people by feeding the homeless at a soup kitchen, but not caring about stopping people from becoming homeless in the first place. How is that pro-life? That just sounds like pro-gestation. Once you're born, you're on your own.

My mother had to have an abortion because of similar reasons. My sister would have suffered a life of pain as well and I admired her for taking the decision to end her pain. As well, I admire you too! Nobody has the right to call you a bad person because you actually made the best choice I believe! Stay strong, you will have your chance, and just know that ur baby girl is now your guardian angel! :')

I agree wholeheartedly. I'm glad you are at peace with your decision and I hope you are recovering well. :)